Ex-gays or not

Even though I am married to a woman now I am still in love with a commerical fisherman in Providence RI. He and I meet occasionally and I just haven't been able to face my reality.:frazzled:
 
Well that would make you a cheater and a liar and has nothing to do with gay or straight. If you are in love with someone else, you should release the other. It is selfish and wrong to do anything less...
 
Huh. That's really interesting. I know that for me kissing is as much of a sexual act as sex is. So I (as a bi female) get as much sexual pleasure out of kissing women as I do men. But I don't honestly see myself ever falling in love with a woman either. I'm not saying it's impossible, I've just never had those sorts of feelings for another woman before. But then I'm also a woman, so possibly it's different for women?

My SO is bi also, but he's had extremely limited same-sex experience, mostly I suppose because he's had an extremely limited number of sexual relationships period. I believe for him it's also just sexual, and not a love sort of thing, but I have no idea if he likes the idea of kissing other men, or if he's only interested in the below-the-belt stuff. I should ask him!
 
I'd like to address the "socialized into" idea here. This socialization theory also extenRAB to the argument as to why gays/lesbians supposedly shouldn't be parents. There's a part of that theory that makes the argument that a child being raised by two members of the same sex would grow up to be gay.
I'd like to point out the extreme unlikelihood of this. As only about 1 - 10% of all children raised by same sex partners turn out to be gay as adults. Interesting since it's the EXACT same percentage of children raised by OPPOSITE sex couples who turn out to be gay adults! WOW, fancy that?!
Most gay/lesbian adults were raised by OPPOSITE sex couples. Who knew?

My ex husband actually protested that he didn't want me to move in with a gay male friend when we divorced because he was certain that merely living with a gay man in the home would turn his son gay!
Later he tried to convince my son that because "Mommy lives with another woman" that this would turn him gay as well.

Sad to say, that with as hard as I obviously tried, my son is irreversibly straight. Darn...guess I just didn't raise him right.
 
I am more than my sexuality. But those parts of me aren't on this board. There's no category for girls with crazy families, for sick women, and alll the other parts of me that I am.
 
We're talkin' sexually attracted here...not brotherly love. Dick Clark and I do have something in common. We're both old enough to be grandfathers, but we look like we just graduated from college. I've been mistaken for a young man many times.

The thing on the two girls I mentioned is that Janet Leigh gives me wood and Janet Reno gives me a headache. That's because of my choice to mate with attractive women rather than tree-haints. I say it's a choice because I know of people who seek out unattractive women due to their learning they're easier to bed. My choices involve more challenge...which is why I haven't bedded one in a while now. :frazzled: ;)
 
I was thinking the same thing. I feel for his wife. Imagine if he is having gay sex on the side; she has no idea that she is potentially exposing herself to life threatening STRAB every time she has sex with a man she thinks loves her.
 
The problem with the 'ex-gay' is that there is 1) a very high level of revitism amoung them, and 2) an extremely high level of suicide amoung them.

In addition, manh of the 'ex-gay' memeber are found to lead double lives, and never actually leave their homosexual behavior behind. One amusing example is when two of the founding members of an 'ex-gay' group got togather, and left the 'ex-gay' group to live with each other.
 
True, but the risk would be there as well if it was a heterosexual affair as well. I'm not sure if a gay affair is worse or not, per se. But they both are wrong and should be ended as soon as possible...
 
He is a perfect example of someone who has succumbed to the indoctrination pressure of the religionist's anti-gay dogma to the detriment of his true nature and of those around him.
 
I would have to disagree. I think theres this thing called love. i guess i can't speak for everyone, but generally you don't go out and marry someone because they're easy to go to bed with. You marry them because you love them. And attraction is part of love. Im not going to go out and marry someone that im not attracted to, i couldn't be in love with someone im not attracted to. That doesn't mean im looking for a super model, we're all attracted to regular people, i feel like im stating the obviouse here. And we're all attractive to different people.

Now like i was saying before. This attraction is determind by two things; Biology, and Socialization. Men are biologically attracted to females, and females are biologically attracted to men. Now What dictates what characteristics we are most attracted to is Socialization.
 
Thats fine, but is that really enough to suggest that it is impossible to change from a homo to a hetro? I don't think so. Sure there is a high level of revitism, but that level isn't at 100%.
 
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