Why is my girlfriend letting CULTURE and RELIGION come between us?

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First off, I am Muslim and Arab. My girlfriend is Catholic and latina.

We were both raised in two complete different cultures. She reads things about my culture and assumes that I'm doing 'certain things'. For example, she says things like "what if you have a promised or arranged wife" and stuff about me marrying a cousin.

I feel as if her brain is corrupted with all this wrong info. My family isn't about to disown me and I do not have a wife back home. I love her. How do I help her get over this since it is driving us apart? ( i do educate her about my culture and religion but sometimes it goes nowhere)
and please leave your negativity else where.
 
i would explain to her that she's wrong. Tell her that her culture has taught her a bunch of false information because their scared of the difference between your culture and theirs.

Explain that she's going to have to trust her if your relationship is going to work.

And if she continues to willfully cling to her ignorance, I'd get rid of her.
 
If she's unwilling to accept what you're telling her about yourself and your culture... I don't want to be cruel, but she might not be right for you. From what you said, it sounds like she just doesn't believe some of the things you're telling her about yourself. No relationship can last without a decent amount of trust.
 
I'm ashamed to admit that at some point I asked really stupid questions like that to my Arab friend, but she explained things and I listened and so you just have to communicate with her.
If she keeps asking, keep explaining, it'll get through. =]
 
Forget it. She doesn't sound intelligent enough to get over the differences. If you've tried to educate her and she isn't getting it, there's no future.
 
Wow, ok don't want to sound negative (because of last line) but you in for A LOT of problems and culture shocks. I AM A LATINO ROMAN CATHOLIC and so I must know at least a little lol XD. K so we don't believe in multiple marriages so she's probably afraid about that. You will be living in sin (according to our religion) if you do not marry by the Roman Catholic church and you are living together/are having sex. THERE WILL BE A LOT OF CRITICISM TOWARDS BOTH SIDES OF THE FAMILY. you will both want your children to become your religion so she wont be able to have them baptized and all the sacraments done on them. Oh yes and she probably thinks that if you two ever do live together or whatever your family will be pressuring her to became Islamic. So you need to talk to her and let her know that she will not be discriminated against because of her religion and that you will not pressure her either into turning Islamic and that she is free to practice her religion with all her freedoms, because she probably thinks your religion and culture is too strict on women rights and all. SO THERE MY BEST ANSWER. (this coming from a Mexican Roman Catholic)

Excuse my grammar its late and i'm sleepy, but I had to answer this!
 
It sounds like she is trying to push you away. Is there a chance that her family feels this way? Perhaps she is feeling presure and is not sure how to handle it and this is how it is manifesting in your relationship. I think you need to sit down and have a long talk with her. I also suggest maybe you both going to each other's Masque and Church to help you both get comfortable and familiar with the differences in culture and religion.
 
Well, it's possible that she's bringing these things up because she's worried about your future and trying to figure out if you two can blend your lives despite the differences between religion and culture. Catholics are under a lot of pressure to marry in the Catholic Church and to raise their children Catholic. She might be reacting to that pressure.

I would suggest, if you haven't already, sit down and talk about what you both want for the future, what kind of family, what religion you want your children to be, what role you see yourself taking and what role you see your wife playing. This should give her a chance to ask what she needs to and give her the information she seems to need.

I don't think she actually believes that you are secretly married to your cousin, it sounds like she's trying (very awkwardly) to bring up more realistic issues that she sees. She's also probably looking for reassurance that you love her and that you have a future together.
 
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