Why do wives complain about everything their husbands do?

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MaxaTron

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They ask for your help, you give it and it's not the right way or it's not good enough. A husband can cook and clean and do a damn good job at it, but a wife will still find something to gripe about. I know it's not just my wife, as I have spoken to many different men about this.
 
They do that because they hate to see someone happier then themselves.

Many wives get frustrated because, after they marry, they have added responsibilities & therefore miss out on some of the fun times they enjoyed while single. Many have to stay home tending the kids while hubby goes out to work - thus still meeting & associating with other people.

The wife gets jealous & consciously (or sub-consciously) deliberately harps hubby in order to make him as miserable as she is feeling. Women do this more than men do.....that's a fact!
 
I am a wife and I don't complain actually. Neither do many of the women I know who are married. I of course have seen some do what you are talking about.

Women could list some generalizations about husbands as well.

How does that help really?
 
i suggest you read "mars and venus a match made in heaven " by john gray if you want answers to this. Nothing can explain the nagging syndrome of women better than him.
 
I think many women shoot themselves in the foot. When my husband helps out around the house, I just say thank you. If he asks me if he's doing it right, as long as it's getting done, I tell him he's doing a perfect job. I don't care if he folds the towels the same, stacks the dishwasher the same, or dusts before or after he vacuums, if he is helping he can do it his way.
 
yes you are exactly right... women has different way of doing things especially in cleaning and cooking. there are certain rules that conveniently only women can understand. which if men analysis it it could be done in a much faster and easier way.However for women it is not the right way...So even how much you help out or try your best it is still not good enough. next time want to help out, ask exactly what she wanted you to do and how to do it. But you must remember you must ask in a very nice and gentle way...because you know sometimes its not really the "helping" that counts it is the the way you lend a hand and help around. being a wife is not an easy job...
 
Just like some men, no matter how or what you do, it's never enough. Some people are just that miserable. Accept it or let it go. I personally wouldn't allow someone that's that miserable to bring me down.
 
yes you are exactly right... women has different way of doing things especially in cleaning and cooking. there are certain rules that conveniently only women can understand. which if men analysis it it could be done in a much faster and easier way.However for women it is not the right way...So even how much you help out or try your best it is still not good enough. next time want to help out, ask exactly what she wanted you to do and how to do it. But you must remember you must ask in a very nice and gentle way...because you know sometimes its not really the "helping" that counts it is the the way you lend a hand and help around. being a wife is not an easy job...
 
Understand that women tend to be insecure. Because they are, they are controlling, as well. They're deepest fear is that they're going to lose you; so they set out to control literally everthing in your life. They don't know that they are actually pushing the man away. You have to work around a controlling wife. Don't let her get a stronghold. Be the best husband you can be, and let that be enough.

When you know you've done a good job, don't let her gripes bother you. You can say something like: "I know it isn't up to your standards, sweetheart; but I'm satisfied, so I'll go with that". Don't say it in a nasty way, say it in a nice way and walk away. When she asks for your help and it's not good enough, don't worry about it. You've done the best you can do, and you can't do better than that. In other words, don't let her insecurity make you question yourself. The problem is her, not you. And you are correct: it's not just your wife. A good example of how a man deals with a controlling woman is the sitcom, 'Everybody loves Raymond'. Raymond's father keeps his controlling wife in line, by understanding that nothing he does is going to please her. Although he loves her, he does whatever he wants to do, since he knows she's going to complain about it anyway. That's pretty much how you have to feel about your wife. You can love her to death, but you have to know that she's insecure and don't let it ruin your day. You might even find the humor in it. If she gripes, she gripes. Life goes on. Take care.
 
Nope, I don't complain at all....we each have our own little 'niche' in the home altho recently I became ill with the flu not once but TWICE! and he put himself in charge of the meals..and that meant a lot of take out and frozen stuff ( I scratch cook & bake)...NOT what I would have made but he did his best and I let him know how much I appreciated it....and when I was able to cook again, he let me know how much HE appreciated it lol!

Guess I'm one wife who is able to live with occasional scatter, 'sprinkles' on the toilet rim, and hair in the shower drain......because I have a good man.

Never sweat the small sh!t.
 
NO HAPPINESS NO SATISFACTION I know it hurts you men but just be there for them. I KNOW I WOULDN'T LIKE THAT ANYHOW I hope you can talk to her about this because it ain't right to do everything then critique about it. Just tell her it hurts your feelings. Why is she happy? Tell her REALITY CHECK nobody is perfect. Im sure you've got a complaint about her GIVE HER ONE Give her a taste to what you are tasting.

peace
 
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