Why do kids from Asian kids here in the US act all 'white',and have some kinda complex..

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...about their own culture? Correction: Asian PARENTS
I mean, I'm white and i'll be honest: there is nothing special about being white specifically, or being from any race/religion/culture. It's the type of personality that dictates who you are. But I've seen a lot of Asian kids whose parents migrated here to the US seem to have some kind of complexes about their parents' heritage, and try to act 'white' and abandon their heritage thinking it's cool; when i seriously think there is nothing cool with being white. I guess Hollywood is also responsible in feeding this impression that white people are hip, cool etc; when it's not really like that and depends from person to person.
 
Oh my god! I have lived in Asia for so long that I had no idea there was a way to act white.

They are white! Their parents are Asian and they are white. They were raised in an Asian family and went to White schools with white children. At about age 6, the school and peers take over as the primary agent of socialization. The parents of first generation families rarely if ever understand their Westernized children. The children, also, have great difficulty identifying with the parents while living in a culture that does not support the parental belief system.

The Asian kids are not "acting." They are no different than the white kids around them. They have taken on the culture and only seem to stand out to you because of the fact that they are Asian. It may seriously be your perception that is at fault and not the Asian kids.

good luck with that.
 
Asian youth often have difficulty with such identities, actually, and it's not always something they choose. Let me explain with youth:

1- If they were born in their country, and moved here later, they're considered 1st generation.
2- If their parents lived overseas, but moved to the States, thus giving birth to their children here, then their children are "2nd generation".

3- But now, for example with Koreans, their parents often find work among 1st generation Koreans, go to Korean-speaking churches, and never leave their culture, thus never learn English, either. Their kids, on the other hand, were forced into the world of the American melting pot. So the youth live in 2 cultures, and often don't know which they actually belong to. So they're called 3rd generation Koreans.

They act "white" because that's the culture they grew up in outside of home (and spend more time in). Granted, often around teenage, they may begin to seek out the culture of their heritage. But until then, they're closer to the culture of their school and friends. If this includes a lot of whites, they begin to blend in and take on the white culture. If black, they take on the black culture.

challenge to you: befriend an Asian and spend some time in their home-culture. If you spend a lot of time there, you may begin to pick up some on theirs yourself.
 
i am an indian and i understand you completely...
when the people you mentioned above returns home, they think
"oh, geez, these peasants are embarrassing me.."
yes, hollywood also plays a HUGE part in it.
it also changed me to some extent. i am not proud of it either.
 
What do you mean? Ill go out of my way just to be sure I dont sound to white. Hell I even gave myself a slight accent so I dont sound white. I know all about my heritage and stuff.


BTW: I'm listening to Indian songs right now..
 
i dont think its only with asians but with every one
iv seen white people think they are black and asian and even mexican!!
i have to say no to you here...
 
Dude thats really easy to say when your soldiers are in our lands pointing the gun at our faces...we try to look more like you so you guys won't pull the trigger and by doing so we leave our culture and thus suffer retribution from our own people
 
Do you really think we worship you that much that you have to generalize the whole Asian-American race?

I was born in America, therefore RAISED here. I am born an American, not in ching chong China. Because of where i grew up, i grow differently from my parents who were born in Asia, and i can speak perfect English but i can also speak my native tongue. It's not my fault that my surroundings made me who i was, but I don't try to act "white". I am who i am. I don't understand how you can come to such conclusions, just because i don't have an Asian accent when i speak.
Seriously, i would rather be MY own race than be white, how can you say that?

Re-read your question to see how offending it is.
 
Do you really think we worship you that much that you have to generalize the whole Asian-American race?

I was born in America, therefore RAISED here. I am born an American, not in ching chong China. Because of where i grew up, i grow differently from my parents who were born in Asia, and i can speak perfect English but i can also speak my native tongue. It's not my fault that my surroundings made me who i was, but I don't try to act "white". I am who i am. I don't understand how you can come to such conclusions, just because i don't have an Asian accent when i speak.
Seriously, i would rather be MY own race than be white, how can you say that?

Re-read your question to see how offending it is.
 
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