I don't mean this in a mean way, but I work in a hospital in a newborn nursery. Hands down women from an Indian background who have just had a baby are the most needy people I have ever had to deal with. They don't seem to realize we have on average 3-5 other babies to take care of. We can't jump and run the minute they request help with their babies. They want us to literally hold the baby AND their breast while they breast feed. I've seen one dad hand feed his wife...her hands and arms were fine. One dad was lifting his wife in and out of bed. She had a vaginal delivery 2 days before. One woman wanted her baby out at 9pm. I was 10 minutes late getting the baby to her room. She called the nursery THREE times asking where her baby was. Where do they get this sense of entitlement that they are the only patient in the hospital for us to take care of?
I think maybe if I know why they feel this way...is it a cultural thing? Something told to them that they have earned by giving birth?? Maybe I will be able to deal with it and tolerate it a little bit better. (as well as my co workers!)
Again, this isn't being mean...yes, I am frustrated, but I am trying to understand!
Thanks!!
Happily Happy--I've been doing this 14 years now. I am not just making a generalization. You are right...not ALL Indian women are like that but I would say 95% of them that come through here do act like they deserve a red carpet to be rolled out in front of them where ever they walk. I'm just curious as to why they feel they deserve this and where it came from. Is this there only time of pampering? If so, I would eat it up too! That is what I was thinking...maybe after and Indian woman has a baby her family pampers her for 30 days or 2-3 months or whatever and she (and the family) expects it from the family. My question is...are nurses treated like this in India? Are women pampered after childbirth in India?
Ok, I apologize if I have generalized. I certainly did NOT mean this to offend anyone. I admit I do get frustrated at this, however it is because of my ignorance of the Indian culture. That is the purpose of my question. I only wanted to enlighten myself and learn about a different culture of which more and more are arriving in this area. I love people of all kinds and never meant to offend. I work hard to learn Spanish, I understand Asian women do not like any cold liquids after birth, that is a huge offense to them. I just wanted to learn about the Indian culture as well so I might not be so flustered when dealing with what seems sometimes to be selfishness or neediness but I knew it had to be something beyond that. I hope this is making sense.
I think maybe if I know why they feel this way...is it a cultural thing? Something told to them that they have earned by giving birth?? Maybe I will be able to deal with it and tolerate it a little bit better. (as well as my co workers!)
Again, this isn't being mean...yes, I am frustrated, but I am trying to understand!
Thanks!!
Happily Happy--I've been doing this 14 years now. I am not just making a generalization. You are right...not ALL Indian women are like that but I would say 95% of them that come through here do act like they deserve a red carpet to be rolled out in front of them where ever they walk. I'm just curious as to why they feel they deserve this and where it came from. Is this there only time of pampering? If so, I would eat it up too! That is what I was thinking...maybe after and Indian woman has a baby her family pampers her for 30 days or 2-3 months or whatever and she (and the family) expects it from the family. My question is...are nurses treated like this in India? Are women pampered after childbirth in India?
Ok, I apologize if I have generalized. I certainly did NOT mean this to offend anyone. I admit I do get frustrated at this, however it is because of my ignorance of the Indian culture. That is the purpose of my question. I only wanted to enlighten myself and learn about a different culture of which more and more are arriving in this area. I love people of all kinds and never meant to offend. I work hard to learn Spanish, I understand Asian women do not like any cold liquids after birth, that is a huge offense to them. I just wanted to learn about the Indian culture as well so I might not be so flustered when dealing with what seems sometimes to be selfishness or neediness but I knew it had to be something beyond that. I hope this is making sense.
