Spanking Children

I think you need to define spanking. Is it a disapproving smack on the bumm that isn't physical but more a sign of disapproval

or
Are we talking welts and bruises.

What is the definition for this debate.
 
not welts and bruises....if they need a very good smack the bottom may be red but definitely not bruised or welted
 
I have a very wilfull 2 yr. old that hits, bites and intentionally tries to break things regularly. Still a good kid. No amount of reasoning seems to curb this behavior but threat of spanking and/or occassional actual spanking seems to do the trick.
 
Exactly. My mother (parent of 6) had a solution for a biting child: bite him back. She said it worked like a charm to give the child some of their own medicien. :p
 
This is exactly right.
A female friend works in a day care watching 2 year olRAB.
By law she is not allowed to spank.
By the center's rules she is not allowed to give time outs or anything like that.
She still puts them in a corner or makes them sit down and stop playing but this doesn't solve anything.
The kiRAB think its funny and know they can get away with anything.
There is rampant biting in the center and there's not much anyone can do about it.
And the kicker is she is not allowed to inform the parents of bad behavior unless asked.
I don't know how she does it, because while the kiRAB are at the day care they are really bad.
They do everything a 2 year old shouldn't do on a regular basis, mainly because of the lack of discipline.
Everyday they get yelled at and everyday they just laugh in the teacher's face.
 
I'll never understand how some people can actually believe violence never solved anything. Spanking kiRAB doesn't teach them that violence is okay but that they can be hurt as well as hurt others. Good lesson IMO.
 
The only time spanking should ever be used is if the child does something that causes an immediate danger to their own life, such as running out into the street. Then the spanking should be swift, otherwise it won't really be effective. This isn't about coddling children, it's about what is truly affective punishment.
 
Joe,
These sites show spanking as abuse and not what discipline is all about. They leave out the main function of discipline. Sad.

Actually, I think these sites must work for the US drug companies...

As for the poll: I think 2 and 3 should go together.
 
There are never any situations when smacking is the best option. For young children picking them up and removing them from the situation is effective. One they get older, tellings off and explanations of why they should not do things are the best way forward. Now, I admit I'm not a parent (yet!) myself but my mum was a full time childminder, prevented from smacking children in her care, and I have seen that non-violent techniques can be perfectly effective, and do not send the message that violence is a solution to problems, which smacking does.
 
Yeah, the good old times...........I know your for the colombines and the other shoot em ups in Minn. but I am not.............

What do you want broken?
 
You know when me and my brother were 9 or 10 we were to big and did not fear our mother when it came to spanking, but all she had to do was to say I am going to tell your dad when he gets home and that got our attention.........Worked every time..............
 
That is an awfully big call to make. I would say instead that, if children are raised properly from an early age, then spanking should not only not be the best option, but should be completely uneccesary.

However, if children reach a certain age and have not been properly raised (ie, no understanding of responsibilty or cause and effect) then spanking, administered correctly and sparingly, can be an effective teaching tool.

Not in anger or frustration, but as a reasoned punishment. Ie: If you keep doing that you'll get a smack. Let them know that if they keep on doing something, they will be punished. Give them a chance to stop doing it, and if they don't, then they get a smack.
 
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