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This is a Long Post bare with me:
I have been dating a Japanese guy for over 9 months now. We have been friends for over a year. I am Ecuadorian mestizo (mainly Indian ) and have jet black hair and dark brown-red skin, which contrasts with his pale skin.
A new and classy Japanese restaurant just opened in our city, so he took me there yesterday. First of all, when we walked in we were holding hands and the hostess saw this. But when i stepped a few feet away to look at the art deco she asked him where he'd like to be seated and excluded me, so much so that he had to inform her that we were together. She gave me really dirty looks. Out of everone around us (one Caucasian couple and everyone else Asian) we got the worst service and were totaly ignored. I was getting evil, cold vibes from our waitress the whole time even though she was jovial with the other customers, when I FINALLY got my food she plopped the plate in front of me, and some folks (like a table full of Asian business men) were looking at us a little weird. My bf didn't leave the waitress a big tip either. He was upset about the service, but I felt it was a racial issue and was so angry afterwards that I wouldn't let him hold my hand and I didn't go home with him last night. I said some things about what I felt had happen that were probably in poor taste, but today I have a few apologetic messages from him on the phone. I told him I just don't want to see him right now. I am very angry and I want to vent alone. I don't think we will be accepted by his culture and certainly not his family who are very traditional and reside in Japan. He is there only son and when I was arguing with him last night about the crappy restaurant I asked him does his family even know about me and he says he is going to tell them all about me and how serious we are when he goes back to Japan this Christmas (shocked), not that I thought he would've invited me, but I feel if he had I would get the same cold gesture from his family as I got at the restaurant. Since his life is really in Japan and he intends to live there eventually and after this incident I think our relationship is not strong enough to last a long time. I need advice beacuse I feel very irrational right now. Should I end it slowly and gently? (I'm at a point where I want a serious relationship and a man I can relate to in everyway). I don't see us married in the future!
I have been dating a Japanese guy for over 9 months now. We have been friends for over a year. I am Ecuadorian mestizo (mainly Indian ) and have jet black hair and dark brown-red skin, which contrasts with his pale skin.
A new and classy Japanese restaurant just opened in our city, so he took me there yesterday. First of all, when we walked in we were holding hands and the hostess saw this. But when i stepped a few feet away to look at the art deco she asked him where he'd like to be seated and excluded me, so much so that he had to inform her that we were together. She gave me really dirty looks. Out of everone around us (one Caucasian couple and everyone else Asian) we got the worst service and were totaly ignored. I was getting evil, cold vibes from our waitress the whole time even though she was jovial with the other customers, when I FINALLY got my food she plopped the plate in front of me, and some folks (like a table full of Asian business men) were looking at us a little weird. My bf didn't leave the waitress a big tip either. He was upset about the service, but I felt it was a racial issue and was so angry afterwards that I wouldn't let him hold my hand and I didn't go home with him last night. I said some things about what I felt had happen that were probably in poor taste, but today I have a few apologetic messages from him on the phone. I told him I just don't want to see him right now. I am very angry and I want to vent alone. I don't think we will be accepted by his culture and certainly not his family who are very traditional and reside in Japan. He is there only son and when I was arguing with him last night about the crappy restaurant I asked him does his family even know about me and he says he is going to tell them all about me and how serious we are when he goes back to Japan this Christmas (shocked), not that I thought he would've invited me, but I feel if he had I would get the same cold gesture from his family as I got at the restaurant. Since his life is really in Japan and he intends to live there eventually and after this incident I think our relationship is not strong enough to last a long time. I need advice beacuse I feel very irrational right now. Should I end it slowly and gently? (I'm at a point where I want a serious relationship and a man I can relate to in everyway). I don't see us married in the future!