Romantic Relationship Thread #27 ~ We All Want to Find Love

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Julie and I are facing a tough time now that her parents found out about us they are doing whatever they possibly can to keep up separated. All we have now is the time we get in school.. But I figure it's better than most. :shrug: :(
 
Well I'm always telling her mushy love stuff... like how much she means to me, one time I wrote like a 6 page letter to her, like a love letter, and it said everything in it, it meant a lot. She said it made her actually cry. Sometimes she doesn't get what I'm trying to do something romantic or she won't give the reaction or response I'm hoping for than it just like kills it for me.



I agree with Juli as well... it depends on the scenario. I would say yes sometimes its okay too, like if your too aggressive and the person asked you not to be. Cause I'm extremely aggressive, always have been, and my girlfriend is extremely passive. So sometimes it's really difficult to handle each other. Like sometimes I'll want her to yell at me, put me in my place instead of just walking away from me or just saying okay all the time, makes me think she wants to shut me up or she doesn't care enough to fight. Other times I know I'm being stupid and getting mad over nothing but I can't help it. So i'm trying to not just change my anger but also my aggressive nature for her. While at the same time I want her to change being so damn passive.


If a relationship has to be a secret, should there be one in the first place?
 
Hey guys, I need some advice on an issue that has been going on with me and my boyfriend for quite some time now.

Lately me and my boyfriend has been having on and off again conflict dued to money issues and stress. We almost lost our apartment but was able to save it and renew our leash because my boyfriend got a second job. I've applied at quite a few jobs myself but nothing so far. (I only work part-time and dont make enough money to help pay half of the bills. I only am able to give half of the rent and I buy the groceries, He takes care of the rest like cable, electric and his own bills like car insurance and bank loan). He understood before we planned to move in together that my income wasnt as good as his and he didnt have a problem with it at all. Early in April I got a message on myspace from his sister accusing me of using him and that I need to treat him better. I was dumbfounded because it was just out of the blue. I was upset and didnt understand why she was saying these things unless somehow my boyfriend was saying something. He has admitted that he told his mom while his sister was standing there that he wish I had a better job and that he doesnt really want a second job but will take it for extra money. To have his sister attack me like that upset me but what really upsetted me even more was my boyfriend himself didnt talk to me about this issue. I will admit I do have insercurities about myself that Im working on. I feel like sometimes I just cant trust people. Ive been hurt and cheated on in the past but I try not to make my boyfriend feel like he is going to do the same thing. He does have other female girlfriends that he talks to which I respect though one of them tried to break us up in the beginning of our relationship but she isnt around anymore. I never got to confront his sister about the issue so I just avoided it. Well just today his sister is back at disrespecting me again. Leaving a comment on his myspace page about his status that was referring to him being a better man for me. She ends up saying "Get rid of the bitch first before you can become a man". I dont know what I did to make her dislike me that much. I want to try to avoid it and not cause problems with me and my boyfriend but at the same time it hurts that she doesnt want to get to know me and trying to start drama. My boyfriend confronted her and told her that she needs to mind her own business and leave our relationship alone but she kept saying I dont care I will anyways. I dont know what to do anymore. Any advice on what I should/could do or if you were in my situation what you would do?
 
In a new relationship, and it is in the typical lovey dovey stage. What can i say... i like it. :D

What i can say truthfully is that a piece of me will always love you... & i never want to let you go without a fight. ♥
 
It is hard when on or both parents don't approve with your choice of boy/girlfriend, husband/wife. Also when parents don't agree or both sets don't get along! I was very fortuanate. By the time I was ready to marry at 24 1/2, Both my parent and Dean's parents were happy for us, each other, & I couldn't have aske for better in-laws!
 
So I have a problem…I’m head of heals for my boyfriend. We have been off and on for over a year, more on than off, and its always because I run for the hills that we have been off. I’m scared of getting hurt, now more than ever because last time we broke up he was gone out of my life for a couple months and it killed me. I found someone else during that time I thought actually loved me but he played me. Now I’m back with my boyfriend and I’m afraid to get close to him. It doesn’t help that my parents hate him and he is having a sucky living situation. But every time I’m not with him I miss him, I cant go to sleep without talking to him. We talk about getting our own place but I’m scared to. I’m going out to California for the summer and he is talking about going to. I love him so much, I really do but at times I think it’s a terrible idea him following me. For one I’m going out there to get away from drama, and second he doesn’t have the money for that. He cant stay with me and my family, so where will he live? He is used to not having a permanent living place because of his parents, but he cant be homeless! I want him to come with me but it wont work. But a part of me thinks I’m just thinking that because I’m afraid to get close. What is up with my head?
 
I'd say take your time. There is no need to rush into another relationship :hug:
 
My mom can speak French and English (not perfect but she can). She just rarely speak to Eric and come to tell me that she finds that Eric is quiet. She's very Asian with that traditional attitude of "I'm the mother, children should adapt to me not the opposite". So to make it short, it's a one way communication.
 
I think as long as you love each other. You can make it work out.

My hubby is taking me to the mall for my early birthday gift. I hope he doesn't get the necklace I saw there the last time. 10,999.00 dollars.
 
My boyfriend stayed the other night, it was amazingly romantic, he's perfect for me :in_love:
 
No, it isn't. It just takes someone to revive a thread by posting something interesting on it. ;)
 
It can be really hard for parents to let go of their kids and see them as adults who have relationships. With time and patience and humor, you can work it out.

:group_hug:
 
I think that we all have to make small adjustments to get along with other people and to live harmoniously.

But if a person expects you to make big changes just to suit them, then that could be a warning sign.
 
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