Romantic Relationship Thread #27 ~ We All Want to Find Love

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Let's read between the lines on your post. You've got a lot of explanations and a lot of "but" statements; however, you actually keep saying the same thing over again: you're scared and you need to get away from this guy for awhile. The "I" statments have some important information in them.

There's something that isn't working between the two of you. You wouldn't be scared if everything was okay. Even when you found someone else, this other guy didn't treat you right.

Sounds like you already know that you need to get away on your own for awhile to sort out your own personal issues and to get a sense of your personal worth.

When you value yourself, you will attract other people who value you as well. :hug:
 
Depends on whether he can cook. If he's a good cook then yeah, otherwise, not really. My romance has died. I think we've split up :( I don't know what I'd do without him and I feel really down. It's like we go through really high ups and really low downs. I just hope its one of those situations. :(
 
Even when our trust is damaged, I think that we can still learn to become stronger because of it. And we can learn to be the sort of people that we want to have around us.

Having a broken heart is hard but there's still a way to make something good come from it.
 
:nod: I agree with Lem. Love/relationship learning after a break up can be very painful. :nod: It can take a while to get over the hurt feelings, remembering all the special moments and grieving & missing those times! :cry: :nod:
Wisdom from previous relationships help you in current and future relationships. We benifit both from our pain and how we hurt our ex. Don't want to make the same mistakes if one can help it. Having your heart broken one or more times is rough. Decreases ones ability to trust people. :nod:
 
There are two people in your relationship: you and your boyfriend. His sister doesn't belong there, and it was great that your guy told her to butt out. Now you need to try to ignore her.

Focus on trying to solve the other issues in your life, like trust and money problems. And remember that your guy loves you enough to stand up to his own family in your behalf--that means he's someone special and that he values you.

Count the positive points, and try not to let someone negative take that away from you. :hug:
 
It is hard when one or both parents don't approve with your choice of boy/girlfriend, husband/wife. Also when parents don't agree or both sets don't get along! I was very fortuanate. By the time I was ready to marry at 24 1/2, Both my parent and Dean's parents were happy for us, each other, & I couldn't have asked for better in-laws! Oops, didn't know I double posted until today.
 
Romance has it's freaking little way to shrew with us. If you love that person and he or she loves you back. Then two years down the road, your feeling changed between you and he or she. If those feeling are over with, I said dump them. If not, I said marry them before the next person in line wins them over.

I had the same feelings for Dan for over two years now. Try to guess what happen next. We got married at a young age. We still love each other. Yeah we fight too. It's a part of a growing relationship too.
 
^ High school SUCKS, lol :lol:



Oh yeah, I think everybody knows that hehehe, but like I said, sometimes we can help but be bothered by not having something that we wish we had, I'm not talking just love life, I'm talking about anything in life, a job, a baby, etc. We accept the fact that we don't have it and we deal with it, but it doesn't mean it won't bother us from time to time. And when that happens, thinking "oh but it will happen eventually" doesn't really help much, to be honest, cause as soon as you think that you also immediately think "but WHEN?" :lol: So, whenever I'm sad about being single I just let myself be sad and then when sadness is over I'm happy about it again (cause there are good things about it, of course) :)
Pretending not to care about something never helps :)
 
Aw, I'm so sorry :( :hug: I guess, the reason is that it would probably be difficult for her grandparents to understand - for their own reaons, we know there's nothing wrogn with being gay, but we can't expect everyone to feel the same way about things, sometimes it's just not that simple to them - and that maybe this is not the time to tell them about it for everything that is already going on, the graduation and all. I mean, if there were any family issues going on it would just ruin everything and it would make things even worse, and then maybe you wouldn't even be able to be together there. I know what I'm saying probably doesn't help much, or at all, I know it hurts anyway, and it would upset me too if I were in your position, but on the bright side you still get to dance and enjoy the party together, that's something :hug: :hug: :hug:
 
Rushing into things would be very unwise. You were only married for a very short time, so you need to consider carefully before jumping into another relationship.
 
We're not rushing it. He's giving me some time to cope and get over it. He knows I'm okay with him and he's okay with me.
 
Long distance relationship is the hardest thing on earth.
I'm still trying to get myself together after it.
You need at least to be rich to keep such relationship!
I couldn't handle it for too long!

:(
 
I am saying that you need to weigh the consequences carefully and make a decision accordingly. You obviously feel concerned about this facet of your relationship because you asked the original question, and I'm trying to help you to weigh some facts here.

You need to ask yourself some serious questions about responsibility and relationships. And you need to figure out how you got yourself into this situation....and, most importantly, how to get yourself on an even footing again.

Life doesn't just happen to us. We make choices that result in situations that we have created. When we love other people, our actions have consequences for them as well. Love doesn't just solve everything. Love is something that needs care and feeding; it requires respect, and sometimes it demands sacrifice. Love and life are serious things, and (even though we might like them to) real-life romances never work out the way things do in the movies.

This problem here isn't just a matter of love; it's also about legality. It's about maturity. It's about family relationships. It's about your future happiness. There's a lot of tangles in this knot, and you're going to have to sort them. It's your decision to make.

:hug:
 
Before my bf left for work, he had this left open on my computer for me for when I got home :in_love: He's cute.

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Bekka, I would say it depends on the circumstances. It's not always so easy as to say "if you love each other and are happy in the relationship, you should shout it from the rooftops!" I think all things to do with love are never black and white and there will always be certain circumstances that might not permit it such as parental acceptance, etc. Is there something else you'd like to share or is that a general question? :)
 
Hey guys! :wave:

I need some help, well actually more like I have to release anger but if you guys could give me any advice that would be greatley appreciated. I'm gay and have been dating my girlfriiernd for almost eleven months. Well her grad is comming up and I guess they're having the prom on the same night/day as the grad. So that means that her parents and her grandparents will be there. So her dad doesn't want us to dance to any slow songs, but we can dance to the fast ones. The reason being that he doesn't want her grandparents knowing she's gay.It really upset me when she told me this, although I didn't say anything, because other then watching her walk accross the stage and get her diploma I was looking forward to dancing with her at her prom. Since when is that a crime? Anyway, I won't bore you with anymore of this, I just needed to vent.

Thanks guys.
 
I just wish guys my age wouldn't be so dumb. Remember high school? Kids that age are just so childish.
 
Well,i'm 15 and i don't have a boyfriend yet.
Who cares?I don't.
But i care someone who doesn't care about me.
What a wonderful world!
 
Sounds like he needs to get his stuff together before this relationship can go anywhere. The last thing you want is for him to become dependent on you or your family. He needs to work on himself and I'm sure you probably have some growing up to do too. And just like he can't be dependent on you financially, you can't be dependent on him emotionally. I think time away this summer will do you both some good.
 
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