Ramadhan: Culture question..?

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Al Iman Al Haqq

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I was wondering in the Pakistani culture, upon marriage, does the oldest boy & his wife live with his parents? What are the expectancies of the wife, obviously be able to cook, but must she take care of his parents until their death? What if she wants to live with her parents/take care of her own parents when they grow older? How does it work? What if she doesn't want ANY parents going to an old people's home? I know, so many questions but please help!
Also is it likely for an American- Pakistani man to return to his "homeland", upon marriage?
Thank You in advance!
 
My sister married a pakistani man, and they're living on their own. They visit their both parents once in a while, and both parents came over sometimes. My sister also refuses to quit her job, so she's still working. His parents are currently living on their own, but very near to one of their daughter's home.

I think it's really a matter of personal choices/ decisions rather than strict cultural rules nowadays.

I married a muslim half arab/ indian, but I'm not. Everyone on the planet said he would torture me. Now everyone said I am the luckiest woman on the planet! He's earning, responsible, respectful, respects, caring, loving and VERY patient.

I don't even have problems with my in-laws. My in-laws clearly treat me as their own daughter. And no! No one ever asked about my virginity!

I think the media always blows up every single bad muslim husband case, thus giving us an illusion that all muslim men are bad. One of my chinese friend was bashed up by her american husband. He dislocated her jaw and fractured her ribs but the media never published this.
 
Depends on the family. My family would like one someone to take care in the future. I plan to do that but i'm not sure how my future wife would like it.

American- Pakistani man to return to his "homeland", upon marriage?

No , not me . Only cuz im not into the Paki Culture.
 
Well I'm young, but Pakistani, and well no they don't have to live with their parents really. If they don't have any money then maybe they will until the husband has a good job. Usually the parents end up living with the new couple if their kids ask them to. The parents live with their kids, in the kids home, not the other way around usually. Well, that's what I've seen. The expectancies of the wife r different from family to family, depending on how traditional they r. In a tradtional home, the wifes usually expected to cook, take care of the family, and take care of the house, that is, if she doesn't work. She, along with her husband must take care of the parents. If she wants to take care of her own parents, same as I said before, she should ask them to live with them; this isn't a request her husband can or should refuse. Umm, idk if the husband will return to Pakistan really, unless he's got a good reason to, like for work. Hope I helped.
 
I do not know but common sense wise ....what problem do you have to take care of his parents? You parents must come first obviously but his parents are important to ,after all they gave life to your husband. I say if you love your husband then you take pride in helping him with this sensitive issue.

Also I am an Arab American nothing in me is Pakistani.

Will he return upon marriage? Depends how old he is ?
 
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