Is this relationship going to last? Or can it??? I need educated answers...

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Sweet N Sour

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...please--Islamic too!.? My sister who is a convert and divorced (no kids) started talking to this man online from Yemen (we are from the USA). They have had this online thing going on for a few months now and almost convinced her to come to Yemen to marry him.

If she is not online due to work or family things, for 2 days in a row, he starts accusing her of cheating and all kinds of things.... So she broke it off.

Islamically, is this a bad thing, since she already promised to marry him? She was going to move to Yemen and be his wife there. She is feeling guilty right now....

Thanks :)
 
She only said a promise and promises can be broken especially when good reasons are present.
She is doing the right thing.
The man is showing his true colours and if she married him she would most likely be very unhappy.
 
she deff did the right thing! got out of that mess before it was too late, u shud be glad those types of relationships never works the guy is always acting nice until after marriage where his true face shows.
 
She did the right thing. From what you have said, the man has trust issues and not to say that he is very controlling/ possessive. If he can't trust her for 2 days, then there is no need for them to get married. The trust issues will only increase later and things will get even more complicated.

Besides, I don't approve of your sister traveling, all the way to Yemen to marry him, without even seeing him first. There are many single Muslim men, in the USA itself and most mosques, in the west, have some sort of matrimonial services, direct or indirect.

'Promise to marry' is a promise to marry, it certainly doesn't mean that they are MARRIED. Anyways Islam doesn't recognise 'promise to marry' or engagements. Hence Islamically speaking she did nothing wrong. There should be no guilt on her part.

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