Is it weird if you don't get along w. people of your culture?

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I'm a proud Filipino American and it's not that I don't get along w. every Filipino, I just find it difficult due to cultural traits and upbringing. Before anything, I'm not stating that I'm better or worse than anyone nor am I pointing out one culture is a specific defintion - this is me "generally speaking" of the culture and I know that no matter what race, not everyone is the same. So please, don't be offended, sorry to be blunt at times but I write this with love and respect:

I grew up in a predominantly white community. I went to private school where I was one of the 4 other asian kids fr. K-8 grade. I wasn't exposed to many Filipinos but my parents enriched us with alot of culture. It wasn't until high school and college was when I started to be around Filipinos and to this day, I still find it somewhat "weird". I know people that are "half and half" of 2 different cultures feel this way in which both sides of their parents' culture make them choose which one they're "more of". When I was becoming to be part of a Filipino community or have friends, I was told I was "whitewashed" - which I don't see is a bad thing. I know my heart is full of love for my culture and that's what matters. I find it difficult now b/c there are certain Filipino traits that are hard to deal when it comes to people. Filipinos (NOT ALL) tend to have crab mentality - everyone's always competing w. one another and trying to outdo the person next to them. My filipino girl friends are like this and also get very jealous easily, insecure, and DRAMATIC. They take things personally and get offended very easily and rather than confronting the situation, they stay quiet and talk behind your back...and gossip about it w. other people. Don't get me wrong, this happens to all different cultures - black, white, hispanic - everyone goes through this but I find it common now that these cultural traits are very dominant in Filipino culture and I'm wondering if it has anything to do w. my upbringing. I admit, i'm no angel and i'm human, i make mistakes and am just as guilty as the next person but I don't have these mentalities and it makes me somewhat sad that I can't really "get along" w. Filipino people.

What do you think?
You guys are more than great with your answers and I appreciate it - thank you so much! Also, I'd like to add, (i'm probably stereotyping) but I'm starting to "dislike" Filipinos b/c of these traits...I still got love but...ehh...
 
I think it would be weird if you got along with EVERY person from your culture. This shows that you are unique and you have qualities that appeal to every person from different cultures. Don't see this as a negative.

I'm Peruvian but I don't have any Peruvian friends. It's not that I don't want to but there is just no "click". Just because we have the same background doesn't mean we have to be buddies. That is stupid. We are all humans anyways so what does it matter? I become friends with the person who seems to like me and laughs at my jokes. LOL.
 
LoL...I see where you're coming from....I'm Filipino too...but I don't really have Filipino friends....but you know what who cares really.....you hang out with whoever you'r more comfortable with...lol that's what I do....but I know what you mean yah....there are 2 types of Filis...the ones that get along with everyone and the ones that are really close minded.....maybe the ones youve met are the close minded ones...you dont have to dislike Filipinos jsut cuz you had bad experiences with some....
 
LoL...I see where you're coming from....I'm Filipino too...but I don't really have Filipino friends....but you know what who cares really.....you hang out with whoever you'r more comfortable with...lol that's what I do....but I know what you mean yah....there are 2 types of Filis...the ones that get along with everyone and the ones that are really close minded.....maybe the ones youve met are the close minded ones...you dont have to dislike Filipinos jsut cuz you had bad experiences with some....
 
i think you are right, we as whatever race we are , have different upbringings even if we have the same culture and we don't have to fill the stereotype i think we are humans and we are able to think as we please and we don't have to like the same things even do we are from the same country or town.
you are not a follower , and is great that you have a mind of a leader.
 
I'm white, there are plenty of white people I don't get along with... I mean there are only like a billion of us...

My roommate is Chinese-American and her mom doesn't understand why she doesn't have more Chinese friends; they raised her in the US... that's why... she's American.
 
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