Is It OK That I Don't Want To Hang Out With Gay Guys Or Be A Part Of Gay Culture?

S

Sunlight

New member
I'm 18, male, and gay, and I don't want hang out with gay guys or be a part of gay culture. I don't want to because whenever gay guys seems to hang out in groups, they seem stereotypical, catty, and way too extroverted. Sorry for the stereotype, but I found this to be mostly true.

Also, I hate gay mainstream culture, it's all about sex, being superficial, and making a big deal about being gay. It seems that gay mainstream culture only emphasizes one trait you have: homosexuality.

Do you think I'm mean for doing this?
 
no I'm transexual and avoid the trans groups for similar reasons.

BUT! and its a big but.

Its fine to want to be apart from the culture, in reality though you are throwing away a big part of what it is to be gay. Gay culture, like any thing has is problems but it also has a tremendous sense of community and its a place where you will be accepted and judged on things Other than being gay, for in the mainstream community there is often that sense that people see 'Gay' before they see the real you.

I myself exist on the periphery of my community, I dont get deeply involved in the politics of it all, but I partake in the fun elements. I would recommend you do the same. Its not a matter of Jumping on a Mardi-gra float, but going to the occasional meet and greet and getting a sense of the culture.

There is a reason why gay people sometimes flaunt the 'homosexuality' and its because often times it defines them, and it makes them part of that culture.
 
i personally think that not all gay guys want sex im gay i dont want it yet. also i think thats your opinion. and some gay guys dont act all catty and such
 
Back
Top