In-laws get offended when I don't go to their house?

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mangopuppy

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My in-laws are always having dinner parties and other get-togethers. The problem is that my husband works a lot and can't go, but they still expect me to attend without him. I don't enjoy attending these things without him; especially if we have already spent time with the in-laws that week, or we are going to see them on the weekend anyway (that's the other thing -- they want to see us like 2-3 times a week and get offended if we see them "only" once a week). If I say, "Oh, I'm sorry, husband is working so we can't come / I don't want to come without him" they get really offended.

Am I obligated to go without him for the sake of peace?

Or do I just let them be offended and not care?

Or any better way of handling this?
 
You and your husband need to have a nice sit down with them and explain where you are coming from. Practice the speaches ahead of time so as to make them as kind as possible. Come up with some good white lies if you have to, but be as honest as possible.
You have a separate life from them and they need to understand this.
Good luck.
 
Go to one every now and again. Even for just a little time.
You can't please everyone all of the time, but going now and again shows that you're making an effort.

The thing to remember is that they (from experience) will find something to moan about :o)
 
Go to one every now and again. Even for just a little time.
You can't please everyone all of the time, but going now and again shows that you're making an effort.

The thing to remember is that they (from experience) will find something to moan about :o)
 
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