in-laws culture clash, any help?

[Sam C]

my in-laws are filipino, i'm white. every time they come over, they bring food, groceries, clothes for my child (or my husband or me), and hand us a wad of cash before they leave. they insist on buying us dinner, etc constantly. i know this is a cultural thing; they're just trying to be good guests, but i feel horribly indebted to them. i don't want gifts; i want to be a host. is there any way to pay them back? im not a good cook; theyre rich and we're poor. all i can think to give them is cookies or something... is there a polite way to ask them not to give so much, or should i not bother? answers from flips would be appreciated most. thanks

 

[Bulletproof Ana Doll™]

Honestly, no, you cannot compromise; it would be rude to ask them not to be"generous." Your husband is their son, and you've created a family together; they are treating you as it is customary for Asian parents to treat their daughter/son in-law.

You can't refuse the things they give; you can only be polite and hospitable and treat them well,and when you and your husband are the ones going over to their house, you have to bring something(s) for them.
I am Chinese, but I believe that is the custom for Filipinos as well. Whenever relatives or friends come over to our house, they bring fruits/cookies/chocolate/etc. When my family visits them, we give the same things.