always have pain, why? Ok so my boyfriend and I had sex several times. The first two times kinda hurt, but now they don't. But the day after sex I always have cramps. I don't ever reach an orgasm, while he seems to always reach an orgasm. I enjoy the sex but know it could be so much better. I'm on birth control, take it regularly, and have had my period. I know I'm not pregnant. Why do I always have pain/cramps in my stomach after sex? Also any ideas on how I can have an orgasm during sex?