I never reach an orgasm during sex, while my boyfriend does and the day after sex I

Norah

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always have pain, why? Ok so my boyfriend and I had sex several times. The first two times kinda hurt, but now they don't. But the day after sex I always have cramps. I don't ever reach an orgasm, while he seems to always reach an orgasm. I enjoy the sex but know it could be so much better. I'm on birth control, take it regularly, and have had my period. I know I'm not pregnant. Why do I always have pain/cramps in my stomach after sex? Also any ideas on how I can have an orgasm during sex?
 
Chances are, you are too young to be having sex. I think it is awesome that you want to know the answers to this stuff, but you should know these things BEFORE you start having sex. The answers to your questions are probably commonsensical.

One answer to your question is communicate with your boyfriend, if he wont listen, he dont care. One mistake that women make in their sex lives is thinking that men can or even care to read your mind. If you dont tell him what feels good, you cant blame him for not getting you there.

Chances are you are having irritation from insufficient stimulation and/or lubrication. Maybe you are getting too much air forced into somewhere that it isnt escaping from? Could be a number of things making you crampy after sex. What you are feeling may not be typical cramps at all, maybe bruising, abrasions.... sometimes we can focus harder on the pain we are feeling and get a better idea of what we are really feeling. (It will make sense, when you try it)
 
Chances are, you are too young to be having sex. I think it is awesome that you want to know the answers to this stuff, but you should know these things BEFORE you start having sex. The answers to your questions are probably commonsensical.

One answer to your question is communicate with your boyfriend, if he wont listen, he dont care. One mistake that women make in their sex lives is thinking that men can or even care to read your mind. If you dont tell him what feels good, you cant blame him for not getting you there.

Chances are you are having irritation from insufficient stimulation and/or lubrication. Maybe you are getting too much air forced into somewhere that it isnt escaping from? Could be a number of things making you crampy after sex. What you are feeling may not be typical cramps at all, maybe bruising, abrasions.... sometimes we can focus harder on the pain we are feeling and get a better idea of what we are really feeling. (It will make sense, when you try it)
 
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