well Lisa, i have found it out to be that if ur a woman with kids ,its hard to find someone to take all involvedi tried twice in a relationship like that and it just didnt work for me, i really loved both women, but the kids kept us at eachothers throat all the time, kids play on that alot, they seem to resent someone else other than there natural mother or father, wish you the best of luck in finding someone cos it is lonely by yourself