how can i politely but firmly tell a girl to take a hike?

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heres the gist of the story- (i'm 17 years old if that matters)
meet this girl through a friend, ask her to this formal dance after talking with her for a while, treat her like gold, and after that night, she's a total piece of work to me. i mean, if i try to call her, it's just "why would you do that? congrats? thats stupid!" i did nothing to cause her to have the right to be angry toward me, and go out of my way to make her feel great, and she ignores my call and text for the next week. i finally ask her a couple weeks later what i did to make her angry at me, and what's been wrong -- i'll be happy to leave her alone. she says it's nothing of my doing, and she didn't mean to make me think that i'm annoyed with her.
i really don't care too much at this point, i've kind of moved on. i've clearly put myself out there enough for her to see that i'm trying to contact her, and she doesn't seem to care. i'm pretty laid-back, so i don't get upset and happily adjust my sights to different people. so she tries to text message me (although never a legitimate call) with me and i'm generally pretty short with her and don't do a lot to keep up the conversation. maybe in some circles this can be interpreted as "playing hard to get" but i really don't care, i just don't feel like talking to her.
i ended up through a coincidental chain of events, seeing my best friend at the movie theater the other day when i'm waiting on another group of friends -- and he's waiting to meet up with the original girl that i went to the dance with. she tends to invite him to a lot of things, and he goes along with it to be nice, but he thinks she gets pretty annoying at times. i see her out of the corner of my eye approaching him, so we both suggest that i leave, and i get the hell out of there. she text messages me with "nice little dodge" and frankly, i don't care. i have no reason to talk to her, and i had other friends to meet up with anyway. after the movie, i sent her a message (being testy more than anything) that "i had to go meet up with my date".. prompting her to spur a long series of questions such as "oh how nice! how long have you known her? do i know her? what are your plans for tomorrow? have you seen this movie? i thought it was.." -- my answers were "Not too long, no, no idea, no, nice, and finally good night"
i never try to initiate these conversations -- how can i get her to leave me alone?
 
well if she ignors your texts and calls for a whole week,(im 13 and a girl if that matters) i dont think she really appriciates you as a boyfriend or that you really do treat her like gold. i would text her and say
"i think we should move on. I was looking for a girl who would appriciate me as a boyfriend and frankly you don't. I think this is for the best."
and trust me, if she's acting like she's heartbroken, she's just trying to make you feel bad. Go with your heart, not your hormones. Answer my question if you can!
 
wow wow wow. you're thinking way too much about this. she's obviously off her rocker. any chick who's that crazy outwardly has got to be a MESS on the inside. the best thing you can do with such a high-maintenance chick is to tell her she's high-maintenance. then lose her number, forget her face, and thank your lucky stars you didn't end up married to her.
 
Stop answering her texts. Simple as that.

You have the right to not answer. If she persists and asks you why your not responding to them, just tell her you don't get positive vibes from her and would rather not have the headache.
 
Tell her listen I really would appreciate it if you wouldn't text me anymore...then stop responding to her.

That should be a clue..but not really mean. Sounds like she might not get the clue that easy so you might have to be a little more firm with her.

Good Luck
 
Quit responding to her. As long as you continue to answer her, she will continue to text you. The delete button can be a wonderful thing.
 
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