For the ladies. Women between cultures?

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I find women in North America don't find modesty really important. How important is modesty anyways? I've always been taught in my family that it's really important. Is modesty a sign of weakness? I've always been surrounded by asian cultures and Caucasian cultures my whole life in my community. I haven't noticed it until I moved out to a place where there's only the Caucasian culture. The women here have viewpoint about things I find really interesting. What's your culture and your view regarding modesty?
interesting to know how personality affects modesty more than culture
 
I also grew up partially in Asia. I went to an extremely modest, Christian school, but this didn't bother me that much, since I was a kid and wasn't interested in short skirts and such.

I moved to Europe and experienced the culture shock. People here liked to bare! I was a bit shocked that people walked around in bikini-tops, but now I'm used to it, and I see nothing wrong with it.

Women here are treated with respect and equality, and have more guy-friends than other places of the world. Men are also not afraid to befriend women here, because we are raised just the same as guys. We dress perhaps by immodest standards, but this doesn't seem to pose any danger.
 
I'm transcultural, too. In Japan where I was born we did not have to wear clothes as children too often but when we went to Camp Zama where my father was a U.S. soldier we had to dress in modest uncomfortable American clothes and shoes. Also, people don't swim and bathe together nude here in the states as families. MY family did and when I brought a U.S. farm boy home to marry, he fit right in as his future mother-in-law handed him a kimono. told him to get undressed and they went swimming in the nude together after showers. HIS family, though, actually held a family conference in shock over me when I wore a halter top! : )
 
Modesty I don't think is very important where I live, but in my family it's super important..
 
I was born in North America, Irish on one side and French on the other. Catholics still covered their heads (females) when they went to church, well into the sixties. I attended convents where we wore tunics and we covered our heads with lace scarves when we went in to church or the chapel. We were never allowed to be seen in our underwear at home, even pajamas were not acceptable growing up. It certainly has much to do with the repressive aura I grew up in, but my culture and religion as well.
My parents educated their children in the same way they had been brought up, and they had been raised by Victorian era parents. So they themselves could see little wrong with their childhoods.
Modesty they felt was respectable, people from certain classes of society did not show cleavage or midriffs. They felt that only cheap, disreputable women exposed their bodies. It seems to me that they may have been afraid of their bodies, that they lacked the ability to not be ashamed. Modesty for them was caught up in their culture and religion and it seems that it was repression.
I actually think that its great and fine and good that women are not afraid of their bodies. That they think its good to be without a bra or wear clothing that shows their skin. To me it seems fearless.
 
I live in utah, and most people here hardly show their ankles :) just kiddin. I don't dress uber modest, but i respect those that do. The only reason i don't like people that dress like sluts is because a) it kind of grosses me out, some things were just meant to be covered and b) because it can make you look like you have a lower IQ.
 
In my culture I see both. Generally people who dress a certain way get with people who like that sort of thing. So if you want someone who is interested in a partner who dresses flamboyantly then you should do so. If you are interested in a partner who isn't - don't.
 
I'm Caucasian/Jewish, but that has nothing to do with the fact that I'm not a particularly modest person. I've made out in public places more than once (but always with the same guy).
 
I am a Romanian gypsy and we don't dress like prostitutes but we wear pants and dresses like normal people. My family is pagan so we respect and venerate nature and we don't stress out over nudity in the home but we don't go around flirting or being tarty either.
 
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