Fellow Filipina - why do you take the old ugly and obese foreigner instead of the

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beautiful and well educated? I am wondering - that there are a lot of ugly, bald, obese and uneducated among thus folks. Aren't there any slim,guapo and intelligent ones on the marriage market as well
 
It's sad to see racism playing such a divisive role among filipinos but I hope these discussions lead to greater understanding. While my wife doesn't consider me to be old, ugly or wealthy and I am well educated and live comfortably her answer for you is simple,"the heart decides." When we were first getting to know each other years ago she had a saying," the heart dont teach" meaning that wealth doesn't bring you love. Having seen so much poverty in her life she was brave enough to look past all of the going nowhere fast filipinos to seek a brighter future. Actually, she preferred chinese looks but I captured her heart. And for me young and beautiful is fantastic but what attracted me to her was her traditional values that I grew up with and many american women have lost in this day of rampant divorce and independence. I'm afraid the deeper issue of racism will just keep heating up as the country has increasingly relied upon its population as a dynamic workforce that travels abroad for employment to keep it viable which consequentially will introduce more and more foreign cultures to the Philippines.
 
I could say "money" as many might but that is not the real answer. I think you will find the girls marrying the old guys are poor and not too well educated with little prospects. The guys are old and fat with little prospects. Perhaps money does make the guys seem more attractive than normal. Do any of them marry fat old poor foreign guys ? And the youth and relative beauty of the girls make them seem more attractive to the guys ? Do any of them marry fat middle age Filipinas?
Seems like they both find something they want in the relationship.
 
all the guys like me are taken already. sorry.


but if you want to go for a test drive maybe we can arrange something!!
 
yes, i agree with what the guy who answered before me.
i guess it's colonial mentality somehow..

i am a Filipina, and not what you think is all Filipino women are.
Filipino women marrying men from East Asian countries tend to be younger and less educated..actually, at first i used to hate them..
they're really making bad reputations for Filipinos..but somehow i pity them..i think most do that for money not love..(the ones in provinces..i could say they are the "troublemaker"..but i do see they're point of view).


you may have a point really..but what i'm trying to
point out is that, don't misjudge people..
yes i am Filipina but most of us are not like what you think.
i feel bad that we are getting that such outlook from foreigners.
and i've been thinking of how to change the way foreigners see Philippines in such a bad outlook..

often, the Filipino women living in provinces and less-educated marry foreigners for money. i hate them actually..
but i could really say Filipino women are thoughtful..we believe in a one-man one-woman relationship.

but, i guess..people have different outlooks in life..
and Filipino women marrying foreigners have different reasons for
marrying them..yes, it could be about colonial mentality, or for money, or for love after all..
 
Owh, I'm Filipina .. But I don't think that way..
But come to think of it, of a woman thinks more about money, of course, she would prefer the wealthy foreigner instead of native one. Beauty may pass away sis. My bf is a foreigner but not wealthy. But I love him so much. It really depends, sis. :)
 
Your question and the following information don't match. It seems that you're asking why someone would choose a "old ugly and obese foreigner" over a "beautiful and well-educated" Filipino.

Anyway, everything can be answered in two words: colonial mentality.
 
A few are; but most of those guys have absolutely no reason to venture so far beyond the shores of their respective countries to land the girls of their dreams whereas...never mind.
 
HEY hey hey.....
There are some
ugly, bald, obese and uneducated people in the world who also happen to be nice loving people.
Looks ain't everything, honey. And if they were, what makes you think that Filipinas would be walking away with the trophy at every competition?

I really wish it were not such an economic issue and all heated up as all this, but that is what it comes down to. Marriage is a give and take thing. Some people have physical problems and are ugly, and not all Filipinas are beautiful, so there is that too.

In a good marriage, everyone gets what they want, and that is the way it should be. Find yourself a nice guy and mellow out.
 
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