Easy 10 point! ( only western guys ) Please help me i don't know my boyfriend culture!?

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Ok, It's long but i need help please.
I'm 24 , Iranian, a virgin girl , My boyfriend is 33 , white british , We met online on the internet 1 year and 3 months ago. We haven't met in real yet , but we are planning to meet, last month i asked him when he will come to me he said he will take a break and come in this summer , but last night he was tired , had a sore head and was in a bad mood ,so when i asked him again when he will come he just got angry and said he doesn't know when he will come, i said " but you told me you will come in the summer ! "
he just said " do you think it's easy to come to Iran? you don't live down the road , you are in iran ! and i wouldn't like to be forced about coming to there "
I got really upset, Is this because that he was just tired ?
Please don't tell me to leave him because i can't leave him, i have waited for 1 year and 3 months for him so i'm not gonna leave him, and he always says that he loves me very much,

I just need help to tell me will he come to me finally according to your western culture ?
How long does Western long distance relationships take to couples meet in real ?
And do you think is this normal for a British guy to say that he doesn't know when he will come after such a long time ?
 
What? Leave him? No way! He just had a headache. He had a good point. It is very expensive to go from Brittain to Iran. The airplane tickets are expensive, and his life insurance may go up due to the war in that general area. I get headaches all the time and get angry easily when I have one. He'll probably apologize later. Just talk to him again and let him know that it hurt your feelings when he yelled at you.
 
going long distances is very stressful especially with all the war issues going on around Iran. Just be patient and understanding for him. It will be hard for him to visit. you sound to eager or as if you are acting like a little child begging him to come and not considering the steps on his behalf to get to you.
 
Having dated Asians and Middle Easterners myself, I feel like I know exactly why you are upset. It's not that he is being cranky or that his head is sore, as you say. Westerners are much more emotional and vocal about their frustrations. In the Mid East and Asia, personal composure means a lot about a person's character. It is simply not that way in the West. We do not equate good manners with good character. Second, he is probably frustrated about not being able to come meet you straight away. Western long distance relationships could take 1 week to 1 year. I met a man last year who flew from Tennessee to Manila to meet his sweetheart. It took him more than a year. I would say such a thing could be normal. It depends how much he travels, if he can get time off work, if he thinks you are worth the time and money for a simple visit.
 
Have you ever considered that maybe he wasn't really meaning all of this? I mean it's easy to pretend on the internet. And culture does not have anything to do with it. You're the only one that can tell if you feel he's serious about you. If so, it was only a bad day for him maybe. And just so you know, usually long distance relationship rarely work out. And thats for people who have actually been together a little. Maybe you should think about all this. Where can I meet a beautiful iranian girl? Golshifteh Farahani is the love of my life.
 
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