Does she really like me or it is in her culture to be so polite ? Plz tell me !?

eagerfellow

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There is a Japanese girl doing research with me. I am a brown asian. She seems polite generally and behaves nice to everyone. I have noticed certain things that 'might mean' that she has a strong crush on me.

One thing I am sure about is that she respects me (That maybe her trait).

She asks me a lot of questions (Her topic of research is close to mine one) OK, OK, lets take that as obvious. One day when we 4-5 people talking about different languages and scripts (We have a multicultural research group) and telling one another how a few common words are spoken in different languages she asked me in front of other people how to say 'I like you' in MY language. I took control of myself, and answered it normally as any other question, anyway.

The next day I was with her and one of our common friend and she asked me if I drink alcohol and smoke or not. I smiled and said no. Then my other friend asked her if she drinks and smokes. She said yes but I could notice a degree of reluctance/hesitation in her voice(Maybe inferiority complex ?).

She often compliments me for something I told her regarding our research, but mostly immediately after somebody leaves the room we are in. She waits to be alone before complimenting me.

She asked me my phone number and gave her without me asking, and even though she has disabled "Add as Friend" option in her facebook profile, she sent me an invite to be her friend. However, she never calls or email me except study matters, although she looks for chances to speak to me while in the college. She wouldn't call, text or email when she will be at her student accommodation.

Looking at her relatively poor command on English you cannot say that she has studied in an English speaking country for 3-4 years. She still signs her name in Japanese.

Latest Information : I have firm evidences that she has a different personality at her student residence. She has excessive sexual relations with possibly more than one partners.

Is she just playing with me or she has a real crush ?
 
I definitely think she likes you. Just ask her if she has a boyfriend. She will probably giggle demurely with her hand over her mouth (I'm sure you already know she does this). If she says no, then ask her how to say "I like you" in Japanese. I think she'll get the point.
 
Rather than trying to decipher whether or not she's interested in dating you, make her your friend, ask her out (as a friend) to a movie or out the park. A group outing with friends is a great means of spending time with someone without putting the on the pressure. Spending time together (outside of work/school) is a good way to develop a good friendship, then perhaps once that is a reality, both of you will be more comfortable and certain in expressing your interest in one another.
 
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