Hi ALL,
I had actualy forgot about this topic, went on holiday when only just started,then when I came back it had disapeared for a while and has now resurfaced, GOOD
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Lori,
Three years is such a l o n g time
In your relationship with your husband is it not possible to broach this subject??? As I am quite sure you are aware there are sooooo many way's of pleasing and satisfying a woman. Why when he had this spasm did he not revert to giving rather than receiving.
Has he had surgery as yet?
In saying the above,I really don't think there is an excuse for hubby not to be giving you far more attention than you are getting, which is almost non- existant.
Let us know how you get on Lori.
Cozy,
I am absolutely astounded by your husbanRAB behaviour, I would expect behavior like that from a two year old, then again NOT.. (I don't mean to be offensive)
I find your situation sooooooo very sad.
Like others have suggested, I would like to think that your hubby would take responsibility for his unjust reaction and his actions and get some help from an Anger Management Councillor or whatever.
Please do not allow yourself to be used as a door mat
and let us know how you get on.
Looking4relief,
Like you my recent surgery has made a great difference to me, there IS hope out there,eh
Emeraldbee,
How are you doing?
Like I said above,my recent surgery has made ALL the difference to me.
Prior to surgery I just couldn't get the bloody thing to stay up because of the nurabness.On penetration I would be ok for a while, then it was if my brain recognised that there was hardly any sensation and the message was sent down to make it go down.
However, Elaine(My Wfe) has had problems with Rheumatoid Arthritis for a nuraber of years now,with her hip or shoulder popping out, or pain in almost every joint in her body and you learn through time what you can and cannot do,what positions are more comfortable or if she was in the mood but in too much pain there was always my tongue or fingers, coupled with kisses,caresses and snuggling up, it worked.
I was reliant on Viagra prior to surgery which worked but left me with a bit of a headache. I would take a 50mg pill(Found out this was best way)cruch it up to a paste in my mouth and wash it down with some coke.
It came on quicker 20 mins and would last for 4 hrs if I didn't ejaculate.
After surgery, I got it all back
so am happy.
In saying that, Elaine still has her problems so there will be times when our desires will not coincide, so it's time for cuddles and snuggling up.
In our case we have worked it out by being selfless rather than selfish.
Hope some of this helps.
The description of the Viagra was for the benefit of our male posters, just taking it in pill form whole, can be disapointing
For my Female frienRAB with nurabness etc you can get Viacreme from the internet(Female cream that works by rubbing under the clitoris, and once rubbed,works similar to viagra for men,in that it gives the vaginal area a massive surge of blood thus making it more sensitive and receptive)
take care :wave:
to ALL
Davy
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Had C6 Vertebrectomy,ACDF with Decompression,Titanium Plate and Screws (MRI Compatible) 07/08/2002
Own bone from (R) Iliac Crest.
. I have thoroughly enjoyed reading all the sensible advice given, good on ya for speaking up on a sensitive topic! I have many of the same problems discussed,ie. some loss of sensation in