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shafiqdms1

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When you're attracted to someone, their age is probably not the first thing you think about. One thing to consider though is the guidelines/rules that the younger one's parents establish. With a 13 year old and a 17 year old, you'd need to follow what her parents decide, and not try to get her to follow the more relaxed freedoms you probably have. It could be something like she has to be home by 9 p.m. (for example), or she can't go out on school nights. If you and your friends are experimenting with drinking, it would encourage her to try as well - and that's just wrong. There's a whole lot of growing up that's done during each of those teenage years. So, basically, you'd be expected to act like the best role model within her own age group. If you can deal with that, you're a lot more likely to get the support of her parents.

If what you thought you felt for her only lasted one day, it's probably not something you should pursue.
 
Well, I'm 3 years apart from the girl of my dreams...which kinda blows, because I can't take our relationship any farther than best friends, as it's illegal. She's 19, i'm going on 16 soon. 3 years makes all the difference in the world if statutory(sp?) is involved. But since you're both under 18...well, I don't know Euro-laws. But I don't see a problem with it.

How I see it? If they're old enough to pee, they're old enough for me! :tongue:
 
year 12? isn't that year 1 in college? and year 8 is 13, but year 12 is 17. u are a dwebe, my mate is dating a boy in yr 11 (he's 16) and has been for 2 years. and she is in the same year as me, 9 (so she's 14)
 
I have to agree with Silk here. It is fine if you say that overall you don't think 13 year olds are not mature enough, but to go for a direct hit on Silk... Believe it or not there are people out there responsible enough to date, even 13 year olds. A general statement that people under a certain age are not mature enough to date is a false statement considering how relationships can work between younger people. 13 year olds may not be as wise as you :pray: oh sacred one, but they are people too who do have a brain, and have the capability to be mature, and learn.

I'm probably going to get cocked for this. lol
 
Silk, Young, come back and comment when your child hits 13 and comes home to tell you they're in a relationship. I'm fairly confident you'll change you're tune. And no, it wasn't a flame, Silk. I said "EVERYONE" feels they can handle anything at 13; that includes me.
 
I wouldnt say age is, overall regardless. but in most situations yes. It all boils down to the maturity level. but in that sense, someone's age can contribute to their maturity level, or atleast to their mental capacity. I never quite fit well with my age group since about 15 years old. Their conversations were uninteresting, they didnt care about world issues or politics or...even thinking deep about simple situations. They were on the "I'm grown yet I dont know shit" page. not that I was above it, I was just different from it.
Now I'm in a situation with a younger girl. Absolutely migrane worthy. lol But I adore her. I'm willing to wait and try to expand her to be bigger and better. She has that potential. shes very intelligent and loves to over analyze; just have to properly direct it.
its all in the mind.

but 13 is just undoable.
Undoable dude. No. lol
 
My daughters are getting close and I can tell you that they are mature enough to make their own decisions. Trust comes into play here! They talk to their dad all the time about everything so no worries. If the girls can handle our divorce then I think they are capable of handling a relationship!
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We'll just have to agree to disagree, Silk. What kind of decision making powers you give your children is up to you; but remember when things go badly, you'll have to be the adult. Good luck.
 
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