Advice/Tips on how to get daddy educated about birth? How to encourage him to play

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an active role? I am preggo with # 2 and want to have an un-medicated birth. The first one they did give me a dose of something to calm me down when I first arrived... otherwise, no epidural or anything. But this time I don't want anything...
He was in the room with me and he held my hand or got me a drink, but he certainly wasn't the "emotional support" I needed. My mom was there for that... this time she won't be there and it is just up to him.
He has said the whole thing scares him and grosses him out - so that is why he is not eager to get educated - but I'm trying to get him to understand that the more he knows, the quicker and easier it will be for both of us. He can help me through it...

Any tips to get daddy more involved in actively supporting me? I also want to try some different positions this time - but I'll need him to help me. Any good articles or things written for the dads?
 
While I don't share Daddy's perspective, I do respect it. And quite honestly, if birth (and other such things like blood, needles, etc.) make him squeemish, just holding your hand like last time probably took all he had. Asking him to take an active part in something he's not too keen on....? yeah, that's not going to happen.

You're best bet is to quit pushing Daddy and get yourself a doula. She can be the emotional support you need while Daddy can make himself useful getting your water.
 
My husband was the same way about other people's births (videos, etc) but when I was actually having my daughter he was very helpful. I told him to stay up by my head but he went down there to see the baby when her head was out. He also was very responsible about going with my daughter when she was born (needed to be resuscitated). He didn't want to cut the cord, but it ended up being so fast (floppy baby) that he wouldn't have gotten to cut it anyway. I suggest you don't push him-- let him do what he's comfortable with. I think most guys are freaked out by birth.
 
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