You know that one friends episode, where chandler can

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Wes B

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...NOT cry?

So this may be a little bit of a spin-off of my own from angrywelshman's crying thread, but here goes.

I feel like a cold heartless bitch. Like nothing is really affecting me. I can't really find it in me to cry from something that should make me cry. Normally, when I get mad, the tears just POP out. It was my way of getting through it, I don't know. It used to make me mad, that I couldn't control my emotions, and reign them in. Now I can't even seem to get choked up over something.

What really surprised me is that TOTALLY at random, when I went to see The Da Vinci Code, and I saw the preview for World Trade Center, the dam just BROKE. It was a good thing that there was hardly anyone in the theater but us, because I would have been really embarrassed.

I'm wondering, is that how it is with me? I don't cry when I should, like when a guy dumped me, or when my grandfather died. Though I do cry at random moments, like at a movie preview, or just in my car driving home from work. WTF is wrong with me?
 
I have the same problem. Don't really consider it a problem.
It's not healthy, I do know that.
Alot of people think I'm creepy because I can be cold
and un-emotional.
Of course, boys don't cry like girls, so this doesn't
help at all.

Don't get sad, GET MAD!
 
Your backwards. But I know what you mean. I was at my grandfathers funeral, and my dad was balling like a baby. I couldn't cry. I really should have cried, he meant alot to me and I loved him so much, but it wasnt in me to cry.
 
Well, as you can see from some of the other posts, you're not the only one who has experienced this type of feeling (or lack of feeling).

For myself, I've found myself crying over something in a movie, or a book, realizing, at the same time, that it's a relief, because I don't want to, or can't, deal with what is really making me sad. It's not your stereotypical definition of transference, but that's what is happening. Situation A is bothering me, but I don't want to think about it too much. So I allow Situation B (the movie) to free my tears.

The funny thing is, it actually helps a bit. I still don't want to deal with Situation A, but I'm not quite as freaked about it. Until the next time.

What odd creatures we humans are.
 
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