A co-worker of my husbands died on Friday of last week. I've been somewhat upset about it as we've known him since my husband took his current job seven years ago as his boss. In fact, my husband was the last person to give him a raise. Well, it bums me because as I've said it's been seven years of company events, lunches, etc... and David was one of the few people I always looked for in the crowd when looking for a familiar face. I mean it's just been your normal company-appropriate smalltalk with a few personal jokes and such thrown in, but still, seven years worth. I know my husband is taking it well but I know he's hurting a bit because where I'm upset just because of my familiarity with David, my husband has worked side by side with him every day 5 days a week, 8 hours a day for the past seven years! Think about it, that's more than most people spend with their families.
I know how it is to lose a co-worker and how quickly you can get attached because of the constant time spent with them. I've lost a person (the person who had been training me) in my department a few years back and that was only after 4 1/2 months. It hit pretty hard so I just can't imagine. Not to mention, my husband and David always talked and joked at work. You'd go as far to say as they were friends. What's worse is since my husband's old title of David's supervisor was "re-assigned" a few years back they've been parallel at the company level. They're also the same age, just six months apart, so I am pretty sure that is also hitting my husband hard.
A little background, David was in perfect health (well on the outside). He worked out every day without fail at lunch and took vitamins and supplements and never changed a thing in his diet without speaking with a nutritionist first. He was the epitome of the word "healthy". A couple of weeks ago after his workout at lunch, he sat down on the bench in the gym complaining about a "major headache" then collapsed. That was the last time he was conscious. He remained unconscious and had to be put on paralytic meds to keep his spontaneous grabs from pulling out his ventilator. He had a huge aneurysm in his brain. After CT scans they determined it was 21-23 mm in size (which is very large considering a 4-5mm one is considered large). It was also smack in the middle of his brain and the swelling never went down, in fact it kept getting worse. He also suffered a stroke that apparently affected the right side of his body as they observed no movement on it the whole time in the ICU. He finally passed on Friday as there was nothing the doctors could do because of the swelling. He was 31 years old.
I just wish I knew what to do. I'm pretty sure my husband's keeping it all in. Today will be the first day back at the office since he died. I'm sure it's going to be a quiet, awkward one. :sad:
I know how it is to lose a co-worker and how quickly you can get attached because of the constant time spent with them. I've lost a person (the person who had been training me) in my department a few years back and that was only after 4 1/2 months. It hit pretty hard so I just can't imagine. Not to mention, my husband and David always talked and joked at work. You'd go as far to say as they were friends. What's worse is since my husband's old title of David's supervisor was "re-assigned" a few years back they've been parallel at the company level. They're also the same age, just six months apart, so I am pretty sure that is also hitting my husband hard.
A little background, David was in perfect health (well on the outside). He worked out every day without fail at lunch and took vitamins and supplements and never changed a thing in his diet without speaking with a nutritionist first. He was the epitome of the word "healthy". A couple of weeks ago after his workout at lunch, he sat down on the bench in the gym complaining about a "major headache" then collapsed. That was the last time he was conscious. He remained unconscious and had to be put on paralytic meds to keep his spontaneous grabs from pulling out his ventilator. He had a huge aneurysm in his brain. After CT scans they determined it was 21-23 mm in size (which is very large considering a 4-5mm one is considered large). It was also smack in the middle of his brain and the swelling never went down, in fact it kept getting worse. He also suffered a stroke that apparently affected the right side of his body as they observed no movement on it the whole time in the ICU. He finally passed on Friday as there was nothing the doctors could do because of the swelling. He was 31 years old.
I just wish I knew what to do. I'm pretty sure my husband's keeping it all in. Today will be the first day back at the office since he died. I'm sure it's going to be a quiet, awkward one. :sad:
