You can't fall asleep smoking - move or rehab

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mydaughtersmom...So nice to hear from you again! I'm happy to hear that you're doing ok & still remaining strong. Very sorry that there has been no word from your daughter tho. I know how much this hurts you & how it has to be tearing you up inside but you have done everything you could to show your daughter how much you love her & how badly you wish for her to become drug free, to straighten up & come to her senses & accept the generous help that she has been offered but there comes a time when you have to say "enough is enough" & if she doesn't want sobriety for herself than you can not force it upon her. Unfortunately this is how a drug addict behaves, they are very very selfish. Unfortunately her sobriety has to be on her terms & in her own time. It has to be something that she desires for herself or it will never work. All the begging & pleading in the world will not change this. She has to hit her own "rock bottom" before she breaks & is willing to accept the offer for help. You have done everything that you can to help her. This is not your fault or your failure. This is what your daughter chose for herself & therefore all you can do at this point is continue to pray for her & love her, but love her without caving into her. Do not let her use or manipulate you. I think she knows that you're stronger than that! I am very happy & so proud of you to hear you say that you are spending less time focusing on her situation & that you realize that you have other responsibilities & family that you must take care of. Good for you! I'm very proud of you. Do you even realize the power in that statement!? You are doing great! As this is exactly how you should be feeling right now. Yes, you love your daughter very much, & always will but you have other responsibilities & family to care for! You're doing great! I'm so proud of you! Continue to hang in there & know that we are here to give you support. Keep your chin up! Take care & God bless.
 
have i thanked you yet for your support? I hope so but if not please accept the late gratitude. I keep thinking that i have sent her out into harms way and if something "bad" happens i will not be able to live with the guilt. Guilt lasts forever as does death....i am so stinking scared
 
hello! i am so sad reading this i did the same stuff to my mom and found out the hard way, i was a heroin addict, i never stole anything from my parents i mean i made her feel hurt the way you do right now i am clean off of all drugs other than suboxone which is a pill that helps you to get through the with drw from heroin or any oppiat... however you spell that. now i am having problems getting off that... my suggestions to you are dont give up on her. talk to her have a heart to heart dont yell at her or she wont listen she knows shes messing up but drugs take over your heart they take over you, im sure they are making her nurab to everything including her feelings her family and everything else important in her life. there is help out there ive never admitted to having a problem i never went to rehab nothing like that i never wanted to admit that i was on drugs to the outside world anyway but you eventually get sick of that life style or you die... its one of the two... you should really have a long talk with her and try to understand its a sickness, you seem like a great mom. i had a really good support system while i was sick coming off of drugs i stayed with my mom and she took care of me the best she could its the worst thing in the world coming off of everything thats why its so hard for someone to stop. its good that she got rid of the boyfriend when they say change your people places and things its so true i moved away got new frienRAB and got a new boyfriend who didnt do drugs but was very supportive... maybe you should talk to a doctor about bringing her in an having her given meRAB to get off just do not let her go on methadone that is the worst to get off. i dont know you may talk to me about anything i wish you luck in this. its hard she has to want to get off the drugs and for most people they dont want to they just need someone to want it for them ;)
 
Wow!

You are amazing! I can't imagine the strength it took to be able to do that! You are FOR SURE doing the right thing!!!!!! So sleep tight knowing that.

She is so blessed to have that support there for her to fall back on. I will keep you and your families in my prayers!

Please keep us posted. Hang in there and remeraber to take care of yourself in this process of worry.

Blessings!
 
mydaughtersmom,
Hi, how are you holding up? Is there any new news to report with or about your daughter? How is she doing? Is she still in contact with the interventionist? Any signs of her being ready soon? I was just thinking & praying about you & your daughter & thought i would leave you a post. I hope that things are looking up for you & your family. Take care & God Bless you.
 
you have a right to be scared...but it doesn't help. She neeRAB to be scared/ I promise if you take care of you, things will happen!! they count on us to be miserable with them. and when we stop, they get scared.....you keep doing what you're doing....you will slowly feel better...and then you can step back and take a look at the real picture. You know in your heart that if you could do anything about this you would have already done it!!! Have you ever watched "intervention". I emailed them one time about my son, and can you believe it....they called me.......and were so concerned. Niceeeeeeee people. Keep going to your meetings, and as they say in the meetings, you gotta work it!! and you are!!!! pat yourself on the back!!
 
mydaughtersmom,
I'm so happy to hear that you're feeling more hopeful. I will continue with the daily prayers for you & your daughter, no problem. Please keep us posted & keep your chin up! Take care & God bless.
 
my sister was a drug addict, living with her 2 year son in conditions i couldnt begin to describe. They both moved in with me, until i realised i was enabling her to continue her habit...i had to let them both go....that was the hardest thing i ever did... my sister is now drug free, for the last 15 years....
 
Hi Mom,
I thought about you all weekend and I am just dying to know how saturday went!!!! We have been praying so hard and I hope everything went very well. Please update when you can!!!!
XOXOOXO
 
she is 25, and no she does not have any children. That would certaintly complicate matters more.
Are you still use, what did you use?
 
mydaughtersmom...Hi, how was your Easter? I hope you had a good day. I know that its really hard to feel happy or celebrate anything when you are feeling so sad & hurt over your daughter.
I just wanted to check in on you to see how you're doing & how your holding up. Any news on your daughter or any changes in your situation? I want you to know that i'm still praying for you & your daughter also & i always start the prayer with "Please God, let today be the day". Take care & God bless.
 
So Mom, I just wanted to check in with you today to see how you are holding up?????

You know I told my Mom your story. So anyways... I told her about your situation oviously a while back and I just wanted to let you know we are having a mass said for your You and daughter this sunday at church. So, I don't need to know her name or yours unless you want me to then pm me (that is your call and it's not needed) or I thought I would just have the mass said for "A Beautiful Mother of strength trying to save the life of her Daughter who is suffering from the evils of Addiction " God will know..... So if you can, let me know by friday. My family believes Mass' are very powerful means of reaching God. So, I just wanted to let you know.

I think of you and yours so very often and I wish I was just there to give you a big Hug Mom and let you just cry it out. THe last time I spoke to my Mom about your story was when she called me to find out how the intervention went and she started sobbing over the phone when I told her how everything went. She said she couldn't describe it but emotion just overcame her and she felt the heart ache of a Mother so afraid of losing her child. I NOW KNOW my Mom will never know of the addiction I fight. I could not break her heart because hearing yours break makes me feel guilty enough!!!!!!! I am sorry you are going thru this. I hope you find peace in your heart soon!

You will not be forgotten!
Blessings!
 
i am so sorry, you can not make or wish her to stop, she has to want it more than anything..alot of times they have to get to there bottoms..and on there way to there bottoms....they drag there loved ones with them..not knowing that they are doing so or caring that they are..the only thing they care about at this time of there life is getting high..and when they hit bottom..be there, to help, pick them back up..they will need you then..So sorry, I hope she is close to her bottom for your sake, Cindy
 
Secrets...What a beautiful thing you are doing for mydaughtersmom. So thoughtful, kind, & caring! God will bless you for this! I just wanted to tell you how sweet you are Sunshine.

mydaughtersmom...I hope your hanging in there. I'm keeping you & your daughter in my thoughts & prayers. Take care & never give up hope! Big Hugs.
 
WOW MOM!

Sorry it has taken so long for me to post on this thread. I just needed a few days to let the dust settle but you have been on my mind everyday.

First of all, it sounRAB to me like the intervention could lead to some REALLY amazing things ahead. Since the interventionist is still in daily contact with her and she is actually replying is HUGE in my opinion. Right now she is just scared but she has been awakened to the fact that she can reach out at any given moment to that life line.

WorRAB can't express how proud I am of you!!! Honestly, you have given her this great gift and someday hopefully soon she will accept it and find out truly the woman you are! One day it's going to just "click" with her what you have done for her, what you have sacrificed for her and how much you unconditionally love her.

I am so proud of you. None of this could have been easy Mom but you made it thru it and now I will keep praying for God to make her heart feel ready!

Please keep in touch! Please keep us posted.
Blessings!
 
I'm really disappointed in the interventionist. His promise for regular contact went flat after 3/7. I have discussed this with him and he went from daily to contact to 2-3 times a week. I would be fine with that but there has been nothing since Sunday and today is Friday. All he says to me is get to a alanon meeting for me, that I won't stay strong, blah, blah, blah....I have not decided how to handle him, but I will. I am frusterated.
I have been thinking of you as well and hope you are doing better.
Thanks for keeping in touch.

Love and Prayers
mydaughtersmom
 
This really does feel like warp speed. Thank you for all of your posts and I am thankful knowing that we are in you prayers. Failure this weekend is not an option. I am actually trying to get an officer there and make the choice for rehab a bit easier. (if she shows up) I do have copies of all of the forged checks and can give her the option of jail. I have founder of P.A.I.N. coming as well as the interventionist who can both perfectly describe how detoxing in jail would look and feel. I will have her arrested if possible before letting her back on the streets if I can get my hanRAB on her. I am READY FOR THIS BATTLE! It sounRAB a bit like bravado...ummm, I pray I will feel the same after Saturday.

Have a good weekend, don't hurt your mom and thank you so much for the support, it means a great deal to me Secret.

mydaughtersmom
 
We have found out that the opiates are indeed heroine. In addition I have been told that she is using/smoking crack as well. I fear for her life. I don't &%$# about any of this. The tv/movie scenerios look horrible, do most really depict the life? Someone tell me why when I did see her that I could not tell what or even that she was on drugs. Grant it, I only saw her when she came home. Much to my surprise she did come home everynight once she started staying there again, beginning of January, but she came home every single night between 10:30 and 11:00. She stayed in her room mostly except when I would wake to find her looking for food. I would wake to find her and have a brief 3:00 am conversation where she was mostly pleasant/affectionent etc. and I was tired. She had the TV on all night and that's when she would fall asleep with the cigarettes. Now I'm rarabling...sorry. Is this a completly different story now, oxy vs. heroine and crack? I need more information. SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME!!!
 
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