You can't fall asleep smoking - move or rehab

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Studey,

What a wonderful post. Thanks so much for sharing that! Congrats on that grandbaby. What an honor to have her named for you.

Hugs from Bullymom:wave:

My daughtersroom: You hang in there and stay strong!!

Hugs to you too!
 
my updated is posted, let me know when/if you read it. It's above this one.

Thanks Secrets
 
You are doing your part very well!! You have already learned so much in such a short time. Those meetings will be so important to you. they will feel like your line of hope....I think everyone in the world should attend these meetings...it teaches people how to live.....period.....I am amazed at the nuraber of adults who have no idea how to live and be happy. but once you get it...you get it!!! she will come into that category some day....maybe be sooner than you think. Keep taking care of you and things will be fine!!!
 
Hello Mom,

I know this is hell for you right now. I am going to give some suggestions and you can do what you will with them. I am not a pro when it comes to this area but we have had some serious addiction in m y family and I will give it a go:

Now that you have her phone connected, I would let her know that you love her and you want to help and btw I think you have done that already. I would probably not leave her daily messages. This may make her think you are begging to hear from her, and of course you are. You have stated clearly that she can come home if she wants help. I would try to leave it at that. She will contact you when she is ready. I want you to appear strong in your convictions, not desperate.

I don't know what part of the country you live in, but check and see if they have.... NARANON in your area. Just as AA has alanon for familys of alcholics, naranon is for familes of addicts. If you can find a meeting of these people, I highly recommend that you go. This can be more helpful than you can imagine, and mostly you will not be alone in this. Many famlies have gone through what your going through now, reach out to them if at all possible.

Keep praying!! Take this one day at a time. You know she is alive and as long as she is... there is hope.

I hope someone with more suggestions will come along and post. I know how desperatly alone and scared you feel right now. I don't even know if this is good advice, but it comes from the heart so I hope it helps in some small way. I will be watching your posts and if I can do ANYTHING please let me know.

Stay Strong Mom:angel:

Hugs from bullymom:wave::wave:
 
Wow Angelique!! I could not have said it better! So I just wanted to say I feel the same way for you Mom.

The one point that Angelique made that I would like to touch on is how fast acting you have been!!! That really was a true and powerful statement because once you knew there was a problem you took this very seriously and didn't waste time throwing yourself a pity party! You put yourself aside and did everything in your power to help her.

I really feel for your situation and I think about it all the time. I don't mean that in a weird way so don't get me wrong.. I just can't believe the sadness that I feel when reading your posts. It's like with out even knowing you I can feel the desperation in your posts and it's something no Mother should ever have to go thru. To be honest that is one of the reason I never want to tell my Mother I am an addict. I feel it would break her heart. Now, if my addiction were to get completely out of control than I would have no choice but I don't want her to go thru this if she does not have to. That is one of the many things I think of when I get a craving and it does help me fight the cravings!

Just wanted to see how you are doing today! Hope you are well and I am sure you are getting nervous for Saturday but just know what is meant to be will be. I know that is easy for me to say but I really do believe it. I hope and pray it works out and I will be dying to get into my office Monday to check out what happened and I sincerely hope it's great news!

Hugs and Blessings!
 
Hey Mom!

My heart just ached reading your post. I am so sorry that your daughter has not reached her bottom yet. I have been praying so hard for this and I will keep praying. "Dear God, let this be the day" sounRAB like a wonderful begining to a prayer for you and her! I will tell my Mom that as well. I just really wish your heart was not hurting so badly and I am also very sorry that the interventionist has bailed on you! I wish I was there to give you a great big hug because it sounRAB like you need one right about now..... Stay strong honey, I will be thinking of you. Please KUP!

I am doing better day by day. We have finally taken the big step and we have an appointment in a month from now to see a reproductive endocronologist and I am half nervous and half excited. My birthday is this Thursday April 1st so we have some fun plans for that. Right now, I am just trying to focus on fun positive things because in a months time things may get really stressful but one thing I know is that getting further into the fertility stage makes me even stronger to remain sober. My eye is on the prize!

Keep in touch honey, I really care for you and hope that things start getting better for you.
HUGS!
 
Well, I was hoping it would not offend you! I am glad you like it.You remind me so much of my own Mom that I just can't help it!
 
Good morning ~Thank you for your continued prayers and thoughts. There has been no contact with my daughter at all. My prayer everyday is that today is the day that she will call and say she is ready to accept the help that is being offered for her recovery. I am living with the fear daily that I will not hear from her at all...this scares me. I am still being strong and spend less time in total focus on her situation. I realize that I have other family and other responsibilities that I must take care of. I am terribly sad but not as broken as I was.

I wonder everyday in this situation why this can't be done on my time, it seems as though God and I would be on the same page????

I hope you are all doing well and I will continue on this site, all of the support is very important and has helped keep me strong.

mydaughtersmom
 
I was so surprised at your reply, thank you. I don't feel very amazing. I have not heard from her for 7 days. I am frightened. I want to see her, talk to her, touch her, hug her. Now that I have done the first part, what do I do know if she won't communicate? I have no idea how to find her. I'm so sad and scared, damn it!!!! I hate this...
 
Well done Mom!!:bouncing::bouncing::bouncing:

And thanks so very much for keeping us posted. I'v been looking forward to getting this post all week. Granted, she didn't go right away, but I feel pretty good about the outcome overall. You have done a teriffic job with all of this and I know you are totally exhaused. Please get a good nights sleep and feel good about being the mother that you are. Stay strong my friend.

Hugs from Bullymom:wave::wave:
 
She is responding to the text messages today sent by the interventionist. He said that he will contact her daily. He is very gentle in his messages, just wishing her some sunshine today and asked how she was. She responed that given all the chaos that she was ok and would keep in touch to let him know where her head was at. She thanked him again for being there for her. This is a great sign that she is thinking about her options. We are beginning to feel very hopeful. Please continue your prayers and I truly thank you all for your support.

mydaughtersmom
 
Thank you once again. She dialed me by accident just minutes ago. She did not know that her phone had dialed, it must have been in her pocket or purse. It was difficult to tell what was happening but it didn't sound encouraging. It sounded like someone was telling her what to do and she wasn't getting it, she sounded completly out of it - like a complete stranger. I got a picture in my head of a really bad and sad movie.
Since my first post I have taken another drastic step and have invited my local narcotics division of the police department to help in saving her life. I was able to find the name and nuraber and exact location of her so called "dealer". It was told to me that she may be staying at that location. I am also going online daily and am blocking all the nurabers of incoming and outgoing calls and texts of people that I don't know their nurabers/names. Her dealers nuraber is now blocked, but if she is staying with him, that won't matter much.
I am trying to make things very difficult for her.
I have found a group locally called P.A.I.N. Perscription Addicts In Need. I found this group with I thought the problem was Oxy. I attended my first meeting last Wednesday and will go again this week. It was very helpful. I now understand that the behaviour that I have recently witnessed is so common among addicts. The lying, stealing etc. It is comforting to be with people who truly understand the terror that has become my life. I have been praying for God to keep her safe, to bring clarity to her drugged brain that she is truly an addict and she can beat this demon. The longer I go without contact the more I feel like I am truly broken.

To those of you following this, I want you to know that your support is so appreciated. I am coming to rely on the responses to my posts.

To those of you who have or are using, I read also what is going on with you. Your struggles, your fears and your accomplishments give me hope.

Is there such a thing as too far gone, if so what does that look like?

mydaughtersmom

God help me please!
 
It's definitely not just marijuana! If she has foil and is stealing that much money and is nodding off with a lit cigarette, I can almost guarantee you that it's heroin. Those are all signs. I'm really sorry. I am a heroin addict and I feel so guilty reading stuff like this cause I did all sorts of similar things to my parents. If she has no money, she'll probably get help more quickly because trust me, no one can really stand heroin withdrawal. I doubt she'll go the prostitution route if she has the opportunity to get help and good family support. You're definitely doing the right thing. My parents enabled me unknowingly and I definitely would have gotten sober earlier if I had run out of options for a place to sleep, money, etc.
 
You got it Mom! Lots of prayers have been said and will continue to keep coming! You have a lot of positive support here and you always will. We honestly deeply care for you and your situation so thank you for sharing your story because it helps me see what my addiction "could" do to my Mother if I let it. I also know it will help others!!!!

Hang in there. Only 2 more days!!!
 
mydaughtersmom...No problem sweetie! ! ! You & daughter are in my prayers. Take care & God bless you both.
 
Hello mydaughtersmom,
I just wanted to come by & check in on you & see how you're doing. I want you to know that i'm keeping you & your daughter in my thoughts & prayers. Hang in there & keep the faith! Any day now could be the day when your daughter decides that she wants to be drug free! Never give up hope, for nothing is hopeless! Take care & god bless you & your daughter. (((Hugs)))
 
Your a very strong and loving mother...wish i was as strong as you are with all that you have been through..
 
Thanks to everyone for the support. Any advice that I can get collectivly from anyone on hear would be so greatly appreciated. I spend most of my day not breathing, and wondering what will happen next and is there anything that I can do to create the best possible outcome. I turned her cell phone back on when she left last Sunday as a life line for me. Surly without this I would be completly crazed. She does not communicate with me at all but at least I can leave her messages, both voice and text. She can see/hear daily that I love her. I'm not even sure if I should be leaving messages at all, but not being able to continue to let her know that she is loved and help is available seems wrong. All of your feedback and support is so APPRECIATED.

LOST MOM
 
Hey Mom,

I have been thinking about you a lot since we last chatted on here. Sorry I have not been around much.. Life has been so busy and I was fighting the flu so I was off work for a couple of days!

Anyways... I was hoping for an update and to let you know that I am still here for you. You and your daughter are still in my and my Mothers prayers.

The mass we had said for her was beautiful. It truly felt so wonderful in my heart having my whole church pray for her and you and to have my priest bless her and say special prayers just for her and for everyone struggling with addiction. He really did an amazing job and what impressed me the most is that he actually researched addiction and did his lesson on it. IT WAS SO AWESOME! So, I hope in some way this helps you out. It may not happen over night but please remeraber you have so many people thinking about you and many people you can lean on!!!!

I hope you are well. Sending you a great big hug Mom!
XOXOXOOXX
 
Once again, I want to thank you all for your encouragment and support and prayers, please keep them coming.

The interventionist has not made contact with her since 3/7. What he says now is that after discussing this with the "people" who trained him that he should not have told us that he would make daily contact with her. He was told that she is the one that neeRAB to make the contact with him. He did say that he would contact her weekly but has failed to do so at this time. She walked away trusting him, I wonder if she still does. I pray that I am wrong in not trusting him. I will keep you all posted if he does make contact with her again. I'm feeling like I'm back to sqaure one and not knowing what to do next. Besides prayer, I really don't know what to do now.

mydaughtersmom
 
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