So as most of you that know me know, I've been taking care of a friend of mine that had a nervous breakdown. Well during this time period, we had a couple of old friends of mine who had moved back into the area, come and stay with us until they found different living arrangements. After a couple weeks it became kind of apparent that these people were starting to lounge and weren't making any effort to find a job or another place. They didn't help with any of the house cleaning, and they just hung around the house all day long. So I got on their asses about it and gave them a week to find a different place. I didn't do it rudely... but rather in a business like manner that they respected.
So after a week they moved out into another place. A couple of days after they left, I was going through my CD's and I found a couple missing... the same couple of CD's that my friend "Shawn" wanted to listen to while he was here. So now needless to say I'm kind of pissed. I confronted him when he came over a few days ago and since he's the same kind of person that I am that hates to be called a liar, he fought me. Now he's not as good of a fighter as I am, so I bloodied him up pretty good (I think I busted his nose too). Cops came, took a report, and told me to stay where I was and told him to go home since neither of us wanted to press charges.
This morning, here I am cleaning house... and lo' and behold, the fucking CD's that I looked all over for were right under the stereo. Why they got put there I have no idea, since I had told him to put them back in their respective cases after he was done with them. Yet now, I face a real dilemma. I took a good friend of mine, labeled him a thief, fucked him up when he tried to fight me... and it was for a what I now see a false reason. I have lot's of people I know, but only a few that I actually call friend.
Do you guys see any way that this could be reconcilable and not have to be thrown away as a damaged friendship? Because I am kind of worried about talking to him about this now. Not because I'm afraid of another fight (we already established that), but because I'm worried that I might have damaged our friendship beyond the point of no return. Any REAL help would be valued.
So after a week they moved out into another place. A couple of days after they left, I was going through my CD's and I found a couple missing... the same couple of CD's that my friend "Shawn" wanted to listen to while he was here. So now needless to say I'm kind of pissed. I confronted him when he came over a few days ago and since he's the same kind of person that I am that hates to be called a liar, he fought me. Now he's not as good of a fighter as I am, so I bloodied him up pretty good (I think I busted his nose too). Cops came, took a report, and told me to stay where I was and told him to go home since neither of us wanted to press charges.
This morning, here I am cleaning house... and lo' and behold, the fucking CD's that I looked all over for were right under the stereo. Why they got put there I have no idea, since I had told him to put them back in their respective cases after he was done with them. Yet now, I face a real dilemma. I took a good friend of mine, labeled him a thief, fucked him up when he tried to fight me... and it was for a what I now see a false reason. I have lot's of people I know, but only a few that I actually call friend.
Do you guys see any way that this could be reconcilable and not have to be thrown away as a damaged friendship? Because I am kind of worried about talking to him about this now. Not because I'm afraid of another fight (we already established that), but because I'm worried that I might have damaged our friendship beyond the point of no return. Any REAL help would be valued.