Would you say it's weird to sleep in the same bed with a friend of the...

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...opposite sex, for a long period of time? I'm curious what others have to say about this. Because as strange as it sounds, I have actually had a few girls, that are only friends, say they wouldn't mind sleeping in the same bed with me. Take in mind I'm a guy. I actually plan to bunk with 1 other guys, and 2 other girls at least in my college years, and I'm curious because my other friend (guy I'm bunking with) likes one of the girls that I'm bunking with. And they are already going out and things right now, and I think if they do reach that level of sleeping in the same bed, being together etc.. etc... I might bunk with the other girl. She has no problem with bunking in the same room as me, sleeping in the same bed, or even sharing the same bathroom. In fact the other girl I'm bunking with, the girl that might share a room with my guy friend, would also not have a problem with sharing the same bed and things with me.

What do you think? I've been given the nick name "The Saint" because of this. Do you think it's just that I'm really trust worthy, or maybe something different? or maybe even that the girl I might bunk with likes me? Tell me what you think, I want to hear what others think of this, because I myself have thoughts, but I would rather be a little more sure about one of my thoughts.

And I'm sure I put this question in the wrong catagory, but this is debatable where is can go I suppose...anyways, back to the question...
Rochelleann has a good point, I can understand everything you said and see it. But the gay thing, no I'm not gay, and neither do they think it. and the ga jokes are reserved for our Homo-phobic friend, crazy as it sounds, but still funny. But I can understand how some will do the whol "nice guy" routine, but honestly I couldn't have the will to trick someone into doing something for my own desires. And developing feelings...I can see what you mean there, honestly I already like her as a great friend, I would trust with almost anything, and that may actually cause a problem....or it may not. But thanks, I'll think about that too. anyone else willing to give me an answer?
 
Um. I see your problem..
HMMMMMM
Lets see, i would say, she either hadn't discovered her true feeling for you (if she is so comfortable with you, she must have SOME) or she already has feelings for you.
 
just do whatever you feel comfortable doing okay... aint no one going to force you to do anything you dont want to do... good luck, have fun... be safe if you plan on doing anything with her....
 
ok, hold on.... what again?????

so.... you're currently sharing a bed with a girl that is the girlfriend of the guy you might share a bed with and once they start sharing a bed with each other you might share a bed with another girl who we should already know because you said "the" other girl.

well to answer your question... yes, it's weird. further, the girls think you're gay or a eunich, not a saint.
 
i think its cute. its taboo almost. i only SLEEP (like sleep sleep) with people i completely trust and care about. I snore and drool and its embarrassing, so i would really have to be comfortable with you to do so. If you have my trust, then thats awesome! just don't mess it up by trying to hump me or something.
 
I dont believe its appropriate to bunk with the opposite sex because of life, unless married of course. Dont pay attention to the first response, but when you lay in bed with someone of the opposite sex you know what feelings come and how hard to resist they are. I dont believe it is right to have premarital sex and that causes a temptation that you yourself would be putting yourself in. Its your choice but my advice is to not unless your willing the consequences.
 
I would guess it's because you're trustworthy, and probably a really good friend. A girl wouldn't get into a bed with a guy (she wasn't planning on doing the dirty with) unless she really trusted him, and knew he was too good a friend to pull any moves or anything. Additionally, is there a possibility that they think you are gay? >>hope that question didn't offend. It seems to me that you have been coined as a "nice guy"....sometimes it takes girls a long time to think about "nice guys" in any way other than a friend. The truth is though, "nice guys" are the ones we all want when it comes down to getting serious, marriage, kids etc.

Are you having sexual feelings for the girls when you do share a bed with them? I mean - are you fighting your own inner demons and desires, and just playing the "nice guy" (or the Saint) because you are too shy/insecure to act on your own feelings?

Good luck with your situation! :)
 
It's probably because they think you're trustworthy, but the question is: don't you ever wake up with a tent in front of your crotch? Ever? If you don't then they're either ugly, or you're into something else.
 
it's ok...just relax
(some)girls like that too!
you don't have to be overly sexual or you know promiscuous to be liked!
 
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