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I'm an anxious person by nature. I always will be, and thankfully, I'm on medication that actually works that keeps me from having panic and anxiety attacks. That's why I'm writing this TL;DR post. I need to get it out of my system.

So, back in November, we had an issue come up with our finances. It turns out that 3D owed money to the US Treasury Department for Department of Defense stuff. We aren't sure what the money's for, only that we were sent a letter saying that if we didn't pay $125 dollars by a certain day, they would garnish 100% of our stipend that we get from the VA until the debt was paid off. We managed to borrow the money in time to pay it.

Last month, we were hit with an even bigger bill, another one from 3D's past. We're eventually going to make a settlement on it (two payments of 700 dollars) otherwise, we can't get a house or an apartment. People have told us to wait until it drops off his credit, but I know and 3D knows that I'm not staying with his parents in this house for another two to three years. There's no way that I can do it. Sure, their hospitality is great and I'm grateful, but I can't keep getting sick all the time because of conditions in the house.

Continuing on - we took the trip to see my family this holiday, and it's a good thing we did, because my Stepdad ended up going into the hospital after New Year's Day. His gallbladder was diseased and he just had it removed Friday. We were fine until we got home and we checked over our finances. The way things are looking right now, we may not be able to buy schoolbooks for next month.

The kicker is - school starts tomorrow.

I'm so frustrated I could cry. I've been as picky as possible with purchases, but we have to have food and other things. I wanted to buy cleaning supplies to clean this damn place, but now I can't because we have less than $100 in our fucking account.

3D already knows all of this. We're trying to get out of this house as soon as possible, and I'm trying to get a job. I'm really hoping to hear something from someone Monday, but I don't know. Everything feels so hopeless, and sometimes it feels like I'm fighting to stay afloat.
 
Have you guys considered any other options you may have if you want to wait out the credit issues? Once you get a bit of income you could try finding someone who already has an appartment/house and needs help with the payments or is just lonely. Possibly an older person that 3D could help since he can't get a job...besides, that'd make you the primary breadwinner, and you could tell HIM to wash your fucking dishes. :happysad:
 
If you do cry, please don't do it in front of 3D. Trust and honesty are basic and vital for a healthy relationship, but I'm sure 3D is also hurt because of this.
I think though that Nailbomb's suggestion, the one where you and 3D lodge with a lonely elderly, might be a good one. That is if his rules are more accompanying than 3D's folks'.
Whatever you do, don't give up. Life is all the good you will ever see, and to forgo seeing it would make even the tallest, stiffest tree bend and shed its dew.
 
Things'll work themselves out somehow, if not, well they better or I'll kick them things in the asses until they do.

True story :thumbsup:
 
On the book issue - I would talk to the bookstore at school. Sometimes schools have a Dean's emergency fund that you can borrow money from for school. Also (and yes I know this sucks but) you can go to the library and use school copies of books until you can afford to buy them.

Half.com if you are buying them without aid is another tool to use.

I believe in silly little things like, "The more negative things you dwell on the more negative things you bring into your life."

Just have some faith that everything will work out in the end that will promote you moving on through school.
 
Well if you don't cry in front of 3D, you can always do what I do to CL, which is yell and scream and throw shit at his head and/or punch him until he goes and sleeps in the car.

I've been right where you are the majority of my life and likely will be there again. Its just life kiddo, and life is hard and it sucks and its a bitch. You'll get through this all right and then you'll be better and stronger. Have some faith.

PS: Why doesn't 3D have a job? Is he looking?
 
I was watching Californication and this chick punched this guy in the eye so she could come or while she was coming. It reminded me of DG.

Oh, and the word Vajaynus is oddly amusing to me.

As long as you don't have some 13 year old girl worrying why you don't have vag hair, I think you are pumping along about like all of us. It will get better, eventually.
 
I'm probably gonna seem like a prick in some folks eyes. 3D....yes you are on "disability".. but are you truly disabled? Seems to me that if you can walk, talk, and punch on a keyboard, there should be something you can do. Or are you just content with collecting a meager disability check the rest of your life?

Danni...trying to get a job. Meh.. at one point in time you were considering turning down a job as it may have conflicted with your WTF radio schedule. If you cant afford books for school, put the school off for a semester or two until you can get on your feet, and GTFO of that room you're confined to.

A lot of folks have posted in this thread "hang in there, things will work out" etc, etc. Bullshit I say, things will work out if you make them work out, and put some real fucking effort into making them work out. What I see a lot of out of you two is a bunch of excuses, and no action (from what one can gather on a message board). Ya'll getting married in a couple of months, eh? Well, unless someone else is footing the entire bill, put that shit off, or just do a cheapo courthouse thing. Shit, if $125 is a stretch for ya's, there's no way you all can afford a wedding.

I've said it before, and I'll say it again, I like you two...but the whinging is getting old, and your lives stand very little chance of improving will if you don't get off your collective asses and rectify the situation. [/tough love]
 
I am NOT putting school off for a semester. I have financial aid, but that only pays for my fees alone. I'm on my own when it comes to books. And as I recall in my previous thread, I did not say ANYTHING about giving up my job for my radio schedule. The original schedule that they put me on was worked around my school hours, and if they needed me to work on Saturday, I was willing to work on Saturdays. That was not an issue.



Do you honestly think that I don't know that I can't afford a wedding right now? I know this. So what if I have to back our plans up a bit? If I have to, I have to. That's not a big deal. I was hoping for May 1st, but if I don't get it, no biggie. I'll be putting money aside when it comes to our wedding, and I will be taking care of it on my own. I refuse to do a courthouse wedding because I want my mom to be involved in a ceremony and actually see her daughter be happy for once.

And this is no fucking excuse by any means. I'm working on my degree. I'm going to get it one way or another. This was a means to get things off of my chest, not to ask for anybody's fucking sympathy. Not that I would expect any from you anyway. You don't fucking know me, so it's best to leave your assumptions out of it, because if there is anything that I've been putting into this thing, it is effort. The only reason why I quit my previous job is because although they requested my availability and promised me it would not interfere with school, they kept scheduling me during school hours.



If there is anything that I'm trying to do, it's rectify this situation. I have been working my ass off with applications, school has started, and my stepdad just got diagnosed with fibromyalgia and a diseased gall bladder. Things have been building up and I haven't said anything for a while, but when I do, I come off as lazy to you.

Get bent.
 
Kid, you're so far off base, it's laughable. Number one, my disability is both physical and mental. I'm on medication and in counseling, so that's what I'm doing about it. Number two, why the hell do you think I'm going to school? No, I'm not happy collecting a meager disability check. School is my way out. That's what I'm doing about it. Danni is looking for a job. Finding one that doesn't conflict with schedules that already exists is possible. In fact, she's interviewing for one Wednesday. Not to mention, the guy suggested just "skipping" the interview and going forward with her. Granted, it's a workstudy position, but it's applicable, and it's something.

You talk about excuses, "whinging" which I'm assuming is akin to whining, and not seeing any action, but possibly your critical thinking skills are in your ass. I dunno. "Putting it off" for a semester sounds good on paper, but if you wait for things to get better before you do something to improve your situation, you just sit in your situation. That suggestion is asinine and unproductive. Honestly, I don't know why you bother replying to threads if all you do is make bullshit assessments that shouldn't see the light of fucking day.
 
Wow, you all are having such a tough time. I wish there was something I can do to help you all out. Hopefully things will look up for you two very soon. Until then hugs all around! :hug2:
 
Thanks, Mags. It's actually nothing that can't be handled, but it's a difficult process in doing so. I'm getting help from a program that's like the GI bill called Vocational Rehab. It's actually better on SO many levels than GI.
 
You're living in a fucking 10' x 16' room with mommy and daddy, and you're how old? I really dont need to say anymore. And oh yes, that honeymoon overseas that you all asked for advice on ...ya, thats gonna happen. Somebody needed to tell you to get off your collective asses. I've been where you're at, and 10 times worse.. and most of it was caused by my own laziness. School is great, there's no doubt. But when bills need to be paid, and living conditions need to be improved for the sake of your own, and Danni's sanity.....do what ya gotta fucking do. What makes you think jobs are gonna magically appear with your education? You'll only be competing with 1000's of others out there that have twice the amount of education that you do that are willing to take a lesser job because they need the money. And might I ask, is your disability going to magically disappear when you have you degree?

Wake up Jr.
 
You're in no position to judge me, and your feedback has been critical, wrong, and asinine. I have nothing more to say to you. Wake yourself up.
 
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