Will holding off on sex work or hurt?

Whoa whoa whoa.. Did I read where you said "his wife must be cop-like asking him to be around and watching him and crap"? HUnny you are nothing but a bootie call if this cat is married, so dont get your hopes up of going out with him on a real date. Yes he is just using you for sex. HE's buying you the pricey gifts to keep you around and interested. If you wanna be the other woman thats your thing but dont get your hopes up of him taking you anywhere. Watch out when his wife founds out he's been hittin you on the side, karma is a b*tch!
 
Until his wife is an ex-wife, move on. You're just screwing yourself in this situation dear, and the karma can take years to get back in balance. Have some pride. Why would any self respecting woman want to waste her time with lying, cheating, betraying, scum?
 
My bf and I have been dating for almost a month, and we still haven't been on a real date yet. He's a doctor and he works a lot, he does long hours at the hospital (including overnights) and consultations. Then he also has his 4-yr-old daughter whom he doesn't get to see very much either, again, because of his heavy working schedule. Anyway, he does come by my house to visit me, about twice a week, and we talk on the phone most days and we text one another like a zillion times every day, but it still just doesn't like enough, especially on weekends when I want to spend most time with him. He also gets me nice gifts, and actually for Christmas he said he'd get me a my new cell phone (I mentioned I had been to the store cause I need a new one cause my current and not working too good, and he said that choose 1 and he'd get it for me, and he said there was no ceiling, so then I said 'even a $700 Blackberry?' and he answered ANYTHING you want, the price doesn't matter). I know that he usually works at least 1 day (sometimes both days) of the weekend, and that there's his daughter, and, well, I suppose his wife must be cop-like asking him to be around and watching him and crap, but sometimes I feel like I am last on his list and even think that I might have put out too soon.So sometimes I think he's with me only for sex, and other times I think he actually likes me but feels guilty that he can't see me more and so he's trying to compensate by giving me gifts and stuff. Anyway, what do you think it is and what do you suggest I do? And do you think it'd be childish to stop having sex unless he's around more often and he starts taking me out on dates like dinner, the movies, a walk, a piano lounge, etc.
 
Dont hold off on sex thats immature - tell him that youd love to go out to dinner with him - even as a christmas present. Tell him you dont like spending so much time at home and that you are someone who likes to go out.
 
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