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I am a single mom with a 2yr old and a 1yr old; as stupid as it sounds, I fell in love with a "bad boy" who had convinced me that he had changed. Once the boys were born, he fell back into his old ways and I left for 2 reasons....he wouldn't stop sleeping around (I was afraid I'd get HIV) and got back involved with his criminal past (and I was worried about the safety of my kids). He now has a well paying job and will not accept the papers when they try to serve him-he says it's not him or he won't answer the door. In the past 22 mos., he has only spent 1 hours with the kids by his choice. I really want my kids to have a relationship with their father because I know they need that and I know all of the benefits a bond with him could provide. Due to what I have seen in the past and what I know for a fact he is involved in (selling women, selling cocaine, illegal guns, gangs, and possibly identity theft) I cannot allow my boys to go to his house. I am scared to turn him in to the police, however I could really use some financial help. Basically I want child support and I want the boys to have a very monitored relationship with their dad-as long as they don't find out what he does for fun...I just don't want them to be with him without my or a court appointed supervisor. (Oh, he also drinks hard alcohol the minute he gets off work and smokes weed until he passes out at night.) The only things he has on his record are 2 DUI's....Please help...the little I speak to him he is alway wearing expensive clothes and taking vacations and bragging about all his good fortune--meanwhile, we're living with my mom on welfare...please help-I'm so confused!! I don't want the judge to give him visitation.