around AT ALL for 2 months? He lives in town, less than a mile away. We do not have a court ordered visitation agreement and I've always encouraged him to spend time with our son. He *says* he wants to spend time with our son and adores him, etc. but when it comes down to it he either complains about having to watch him or avoids doing so. I haven't heard from him for nearly 2 months now. Our son is almost 4 years old and wonders about his father. I'm not sure what to tell him. His dad is 35, unemployed and can't manage to make time for him?! What gives?
I've already talked to my ex about the importance of being consistent and there for our son. How the father is the biggest influence/male role model for a son, etc. etc. etc. He says he totally agrees, loves his son... but then 2 months and no calling, no coming around, nothing.
I was with him for 10 years. I never thought he'd be this kind of father. It's strange. I cannot understand for the life of me how someone can bond with their child for 2 years and then after a year just not come around very much.
I saw him driving the other day through town, and I know he saw me. I thought he'd be calling shortly after seeing me maybe due to feeling guilty, but nothing!
Last time we talked all was well. I don't think I did anything to upset him. I do wonder about substance abuse though. He has been very back and forth with the things he's said. Doesn't make sense. Even if he was dating someone you'd think he'd miss his son after a couple weeks and would want to see him at least for an afternoon or something.
I've already talked to my ex about the importance of being consistent and there for our son. How the father is the biggest influence/male role model for a son, etc. etc. etc. He says he totally agrees, loves his son... but then 2 months and no calling, no coming around, nothing.
I was with him for 10 years. I never thought he'd be this kind of father. It's strange. I cannot understand for the life of me how someone can bond with their child for 2 years and then after a year just not come around very much.
I saw him driving the other day through town, and I know he saw me. I thought he'd be calling shortly after seeing me maybe due to feeling guilty, but nothing!
Last time we talked all was well. I don't think I did anything to upset him. I do wonder about substance abuse though. He has been very back and forth with the things he's said. Doesn't make sense. Even if he was dating someone you'd think he'd miss his son after a couple weeks and would want to see him at least for an afternoon or something.