wickedaxeguitars
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My boyfriend and I will be celebrating our third anniversary next month. I have been living with him for almost that long; I am 27 and he is 33. We enjoyed frequent intimacy for the first year or so, and now it has tapered off. It's not due to a lack of interest or trying on my part, however, after having been rejected so many times, my efforts have been tapering off as well. He is overweight but that didn't inhibit him before. He says he's stressed and tired, but our professional/academic lives are better now than they ever were, and our finances have finally stabilized. I am quite sure he isn't getting any on the side.
I've put on 10 pounds since meeting him, but I take good care of myself, know how to present myself, and I am not overweight. I'm open-minded, plenty flexible...hell, as I front a rock n' roll band, I make a living out of making guys want me in some way, and many do. And I know this isn't a physical problem on his part, because he gets erections reliably, he just doesn't want to use them. He just wants to snuggle and pillow talk and leave it at that. I am at a complete loss here. I try not to make him feel bad or guilty about it, but I'm very frustrated and near the point of snapping at him. I have been trying to make myself more attractive--I've been doing my hair and makeup, dressing well, moisturizing, whitening my teeth...and no interest on his part.
What should I do? Serious suggestions only, please and thank you.
I've put on 10 pounds since meeting him, but I take good care of myself, know how to present myself, and I am not overweight. I'm open-minded, plenty flexible...hell, as I front a rock n' roll band, I make a living out of making guys want me in some way, and many do. And I know this isn't a physical problem on his part, because he gets erections reliably, he just doesn't want to use them. He just wants to snuggle and pillow talk and leave it at that. I am at a complete loss here. I try not to make him feel bad or guilty about it, but I'm very frustrated and near the point of snapping at him. I have been trying to make myself more attractive--I've been doing my hair and makeup, dressing well, moisturizing, whitening my teeth...and no interest on his part.
What should I do? Serious suggestions only, please and thank you.