Why is my sister ostentatious about her Christianity but kind of puts me down?

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auty

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Your sister is floundering. That isn't Christianity, whatever it is they've tried to push on me. Christians don't judge, which she is clearly doing. Almost everything she does is running counter, it's more like a televangelist.
 
Your sister is floundering. That isn't Christianity, whatever it is they've tried to push on me. Christians don't judge, which she is clearly doing. Almost everything she does is running counter, it's more like a televangelist.
 
She is always talking about God. When I aks questions about her daughter and her plans for the future for her, my sister says 'We'll see what God wants for her'. She hates feminism. She is always telling me to go and pray to God if I apply for jobs. She has always quoted scripture at me. She has gone on trips to the Holy Land with others. She has gone to Canada and at a church service she related to me when she got back about how gold dust fell from the ceiling and she said it with awe. But in spite of all of this ostentation, whenever I am around her she is condescending. If I say something interesting or clever she is like 'How did you know that M&%4£?'. And, she is 34 and I am 21. She always cuts across me when I speak or speaks over my head. I could directly ask her a question and she goes right over my head. I told her I thought this was narcissistic, conceited behaviour.Still since she has had her one year old daughter she made an explicit point that I am NOT to speak over her daughters head (even though her daughter cannot obviously understand anything at the minute). Apparently, it is important for her development to be included rather than excluded when I am speaking to her mother/?? It might hurt her non existent self esteem or something. Furthermore, my sister gets VERY pompous about anything regarding me. I told her how I met with my past two boyfriends families. I was at their home but they were not at mine and my sister says 'M*&^$£' (that's my name) in a chastising, shaming tone like I am a kid that has sinned. Even though she does not know the circumstances at play. When I have told her about certain people that have been disrespectful to me at work and told her about how they called their own children 'retards' so I could hardly expect any consdieration from them, she explains it away stating that they were stressed (which seems Christian) BUT she listens to my mother and seems to enjoy it when my mother is badmouthing the parenting of others. It is gossip she is partaking in! She makes me feel bad and Unchristian when I mention someone has been unkind to me. I do not think that is unchristian. I do not hurt anyone!! She is so clean living and has all the naughty channels (including MTV blocked on her TV). She preaches to me about virginity until marriage when I have different views that have to do with finding someone to trust and be close to who proves that to you but she is very intolerant of my viewpoints *poo pooing* them particularly on the note that people must 'earn' your trust (she has not earned mine but freely disrespects me maybe that is why)..She asked me the age of my last boyfriend (21) insinuating he was much older . When I said so, she is like 'good'. She has extrapolated on the fact that I told her a lecturer at college told me I was highly gifted so she thinks it is some older guy trying to get in my pants.

I feel horrible around her. She is suffocating. She pretends to be a Christian but if you saw the look on her face when she is telling me not to speak over her kid when she always does it to me, it was kind of 'smug' a slight smile, squinty eyes. She is so weird.

When I turned 21 this year she rang me to wish me happy birthday and asked me if i was going out. I said 'oh no, Monday nights are dead'..Maybe fduring the week. The truth is that I have had a rough couple of years and do not have any true friends anymore. She knows this. But, she got all dissapproving and authoritative in her tone of voice again when I said 'maybe during the week' like I was lieing. I think i do not wish to ever speak to her again. She has no depth or true spirituality. And, I feel bad around her.
 
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