Why is my boyfriend always complaining against me?

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Cindy

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months now, and at the time he is the only one working. I have 3 kids, 6,4,and 2 and we usualy have our hands full. Like I said Im a stay home mom, so Im always at home, tending to the kids. I forgot to mention that my kids are from a previouse relationship. Okay so here is the problem....my boyfriend and I have a strong relationship and we both love each other, he is an ex Navy Man, he was in the Navy training for the Us Navy Seals division, he served for 8 years in the special operations forces in Hawaii, his mentality is still military style, so at home he sets his own rules, and everything has to be done in it's own certain way or it's wrong! He is also a health nut, and so he likes his food done a certain way, or not way at all. Even to the smallest detail, if it does'nt meet his standards he throws a fit. I try my best and do things the way he wants them, to keep him happy, not to mention that I also have to meet the needs of my 3 kids, which are right now in that stage when they are very needy. I do 2 separately cooked meals for dinner, one for him and the other for the reast of us. He wont eat what we are eatting. My apartment has to be immaculately clean to the T. or he will continuously keep reminding me that it is'nt. What ever he finds wrong in what I do, from cooking, to housekeeping, to even the way I tend the kids, he compares me to his mother. How noone does things as good as her. I feel like nothing I do is never good enough for him. I love to death, I dont see myself with anyone els, but what is one to do? I mean he shows me no mercy, for example every morning I have a routine that I do....I wake up, get my oldest son ready for school, walk him to the bus stop, wait for him to board the school bus, walk back home, get my boyfriends luch ready for work, while Im doing that he starts to get up and gets ready, I pack everything in his cooler, then we kiss and off he goes, then my other two kids wake up and then I tend to them. Okay well this morning my son's bus got there late so I headed back home to do his luch later than usual, he was already dressed by the time I got back, I could already see that he was upset, as he was making his own lunch. I then asked him what was wrong, he was too busy finishing his luch to answer, despite his efforts to wanting to do it himself, I offered to get him the last of the things. He got his things and stormed out with out giving me a good bye kiss. Things were not like this in the beginning of our relationship, but for the past couple of days I have nothiced that he gets upset for no reason at all, doesnt want me near him for no apparent reason, and is constantly busting my chops for everything I do. Can someone please give me advise on how to handle a situation like this. I am starting to think the worst here, and frankly it would'nt surprise me if he was.
 
okay - 1. 7 months is not nearly long enough time to decide you love someone. 2. you're a mother. stop worrying about yourself - how do you think your kids feel living in this kind of environment?? stick up for THEM - he's not your husband, nor is he their father - if he doesn't like what you're making for dinner - he can make his own food he's a big boy. 3. a lot of guys use the unbearable method to get a girl to dump them because they're too chicken to do it themselves.

why don't you stop wondering and just flat out ask him - "hey - you knew who i was when we met - now it's suddenly not good enough - so why are you even with me? i deserve to be with someone that likes me for me and isn't trying to change everything about me."

jesus. get a grip already - i can't believe you'd put your kids through this.
 
You need to find someone that appreciates everything you do for them and from the sounds of it, its not this guy. He was mad because he had to make his own lunch one day and threw a temper tantrum over it. Yea of course he's gonna complain that no one can do it as well as his momma cuz from the sounds of it she probably bends over backwards trying to please him knowing full well that if she doesn't he's going to throw a fit like a two year old. You can find better and deserve better.
 
It sounds like you derserve way better! He sounds like he thinks hes better than everyone else, and he will only get worse. I would move on if I were you. Its a bad thing for your kids to be round someone like that because it will lead to fights.
 
okay - 1. 7 months is not nearly long enough time to decide you love someone. 2. you're a mother. stop worrying about yourself - how do you think your kids feel living in this kind of environment?? stick up for THEM - he's not your husband, nor is he their father - if he doesn't like what you're making for dinner - he can make his own food he's a big boy. 3. a lot of guys use the unbearable method to get a girl to dump them because they're too chicken to do it themselves.

why don't you stop wondering and just flat out ask him - "hey - you knew who i was when we met - now it's suddenly not good enough - so why are you even with me? i deserve to be with someone that likes me for me and isn't trying to change everything about me."

jesus. get a grip already - i can't believe you'd put your kids through this.
 
You moved in with a man you hardly knew.........now you see him for who he really is. You basically brought in a stranger! Very irresponsible for a mother of 3 small children.
 
Get rid of your boyfriend.
I know that's not what you want to hear, but he is putting a lot of strain on your family.
You can see it in your kids actions and behavior.
School kids can not be expected to be raised in a military regime.
They did not sign up for that.
Image what kind of a life your kids would suffer through if you were to become incapacitated and your boyfriend had to raise them.
 
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