Why don't I want to have sex?

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I am a 22 year old male in a gay relationship. He is 26. He wants to have sex more often than me. Really, I would be fine just not having sex... but no he. I saw a psychologist about it, but after 6 weeks the psychologist just kept talking about my friendship with my ex rooommate. We have not done any couples concilling. This isn't a short relationship either, we have been going out for over a year (late December of 2007). I never really liked sex with my partners, not after the first time.
He has tried very hard, even trying light bondage scenarios and tried to recreate one of my favorite scenes from an adult movie. We have had a lot of discussion on it. But no progress.
Should I stay in this relationship? Sex is very important to him, not important to me. But I feel terrible about it and myself knowing that I am not satisfying him.
 
Sex is not the end all of everything. Talk to him and express your feelings. He may understand.
 
If his needs aren't being met, and you aren't willing to compromise- I would probably say this relationship is doomed.
 
It sound like you a asexual not homosexual. Why not just hang out with guy friends. I think you like guys as friends and no more.
 
Maybe you could be bi ?
Possibly.
Try talking to him. Tell him you aren't sure about yourself yet... if he's a good lover he will understand. Tell him you want to see if you are truly gay and you want to go try dating some woman and see if you like it better. If things don't work out with woman maybe your lover will let you come back to him, otherwise maybe ur better off with a woman.
 
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