Why doesn't my bf put alot of effort in the relationship and just hints alot about

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having sex? I've known him for more than 10 yrs and we're together now and I noticed that I'm always the one putting in all the effort in the relationship. Like I'd be the one making movie or dinner plans. I feel as if I don't make the plans then we wouldnt do n e thing at all for such a long time.He'd mostly just text me once in awhile. And he always hints about having sex and it's so annoyinig to me now. I like sex and all but its way to soon in the relationship to even be thinking about that. I feel as if I care way more about him than he does me and actions apeak louder than words and he hardly shows it. Today we were supposed 2 hang out at his house and then go to the mall and all he was hinting about was how we're gonna b home alone and that we could have sex. I just got so annoyed and wen i said no . He just cancelled the plans. Its almost always like that in my relationships. I put in all the effort and they dont n all they want from u is to have sex and thts it. I do rly like him...what should I do? Has n e 1 else had this problem b4?
 
have sex and get it over with you r still spending time with him the only difference is your in bed. next time he hints about it say that if he wants it he ca coordinate it.
 
Usually when all they talk about is sex or that's all they want to do, then they are just not that into you.
 
Well, if you known him for 10 years and he wants you got give in now, hell make him wait if you aren't ready for sex. But you cant have your cake and eat it too. Maybe hes sexually active kind of person and you aren't. That's fine. But if he wants sex, explain to him "you aren't getting any until i feel comfortable, now are we going out to dinner today, cause i havent heard from you all day". Sometimes i tell people not to over react, but this is a time to overreact. Cause this could get worst. It sounds like you are trying to change somebody from a sexual person to an emotional person. This rarely works and you have your work cut for you. But if has known you 10 years and he hasn't had sex with, whats the rush. What i mean by "you cant have your cake and eat it too" is that if decides to move on cause you wouldn't have sex with him, dont get mad, dont get upset. Just realize he wasnt what you wanted and you we rent going to do that.
 
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