Why does this shit happen to me?

a guy

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Well, as some of you may know, I have a girlfriend who I really love a lot. I went for a party today and this is what happend.

My friend who is normally DD, got into an accident yesterday night, so he couldnt come with me. I was pretty drunk by the time I was leaving the party, and so were a lot of people. By the time I was leaving, there were 3 girls and 1 guy + me going back to the same dorm.

2 of the girls were sober, and I was not that drunk. The other guy and girl were really drunk when we were leaving, so we decided to help them back home. The guy was straight, but he started grabbing my ass on the walk back. I told him not to touch me, or the girl next to me. 5 minutes later, he suddenly grabbed my hand and put it on the drunk girls boob. As soon as it happend, i took my hand of the drunk girl, and put the guys hand on the shoulder so that he didnt do anything else really stupid.

The problem is that this other girl saw it and thought that I was acting on my own accord. This girl knows a lot of my friends, and I am pretty sure that the word is going to spread. Do you think that I should tell my girlfriend before she hears any fake version from anyone else?
I believe that if we are in a long distance relationship, she should know what happened, even if it was trivial. I already emailed her telling her what happened because i couldnt talk to her on the phone as she wasnt picking up. I just feel really guilty of what happened even thought there was very little that I could have dont to prevent it ( like predict what was going to happen, but I was drunk).

Does anyone have any advice to give me if she reacts to this really strongly? I really love her a lot, I would do almost anything to stay with her and I know that she would do the same.

:sad:
 
tell your girl what happened with all due haste. don't let the rumor mill get to her first. call her first thing in the morning

edit: i just reread what you posted, and emailing her was a good idea. but call her in the morning as well to make sure she hears it from you first. If she reacts strongly, keep assuring her of your fidelity.
 
I agree - talk with her soon and tell her what happened.

Might want to add the part about the drunk guy grabbing your tush - and how you had to defend your honor, because no one but her gets to pat that manly goodness - no one would make that up.
 
Sigh, She just called me right now. Luckily she said that it was alright and she understood what happened. I want to thank all you guys for replying and now I feel much better.
 
I strongly agree with tostig here, you need to tell her what happened, but also, don't tell her because you are worried about the rumer getting to her. If she thinks your telling her because you know she'll find out, it ain't the same as telling her because she should know.

I was in a long distance relationship, and My girl felt that it was not cool for me to talk to other girls at all, ever. I was at a party, and this one chick I knew was talking to me when my girl called me. I told her what was going on, and who I was talking to. She got pissed off, and told me she was dumping me, because she thought I was trying to get with the girl I was friends with. I will just say that me and my femail friends were incompatible (I think this is a good term here, shouldn't get anyone in trouble) but my ex didn't care one way or the other.

There is no way to for a relationship if there is not an ounch of trust.
 
damn man I think that was the fastest thing ever solved on wtf. Oh well you did the right thing and all. I know how anoying it is when a guys drunk and all. every time I drink people always think Im swaying and not walking straight, so yea them damn drunk people I tell ya.

Well man you got a good thing goin for ya and all keep in goods with her long distance relationships are hard to handle. Sounds like you got it all handled though man.
 
Lee, what you say is true, but I know that you are drunk now because of your spellings :tongue:

Well, I'm drunk now, and its taking a really huge effort to even post with an ounce of sense.

We trust each other a lot, and I just though it was my duty to tell her what happened. We both know that both of us have wayyy more close friends of the opposite sex than of the same sex. I think that makes it easier for us to trust each other :)
 
Who cares what she thinks. You know that you didn't do anything wrong and it wasn't your fault. Who do you think your girlfriend will believe? I hope it's you or you have another problem on your hands ,friend.
 
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