I'm 34, single, we live 3 hours away. She's 31, and talked to me a lot when single, not any more. She only ever wants to talk about surface things unless it's her. She's a good hearted person so I don't think she's selfish. But when, say, I was being bullied at work she just ignored anything I said. She always idealises her boyfriends families and says how perfect they are. I see her twice a year not for want of trying, and once when mum and I visited, she said she had to leave after half an hour. What's going on?