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OwlJulie
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You have to talk to her. I am going to guess that maybe she is jealous of you. ( Well, I would be.) It sounds like you 2 have a good life. That is my 2 cents.
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rachel b
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My sister in law is a year younger then me, and we were best friends in high, and she introduced me to my husband, her older brother. We joked that the brother and I would marry and we could be sisters. Well, as things would have it, we fell in love and did get married. Right after, she got really mean and nasty. Of course, we tried to keep including her in activities, but she either turned us down or made everyone miserable.
Sometimes she's nice, usually when she wants something or is upset. She comes running back to us. However, at times she comes over and makes snide, passive aggressive remarks about my personal interests, my clothes, my height, weight, housekeeping skills and child rearing techniques. Granted, she has a rough home life, but her brother and I have always left our door open for her, and she knows that when she comes here there is a plate and bed for her. I feel like she's taking advantage of me. Why is she acting like this? We were best friends for years.
Sometimes she's nice, usually when she wants something or is upset. She comes running back to us. However, at times she comes over and makes snide, passive aggressive remarks about my personal interests, my clothes, my height, weight, housekeeping skills and child rearing techniques. Granted, she has a rough home life, but her brother and I have always left our door open for her, and she knows that when she comes here there is a plate and bed for her. I feel like she's taking advantage of me. Why is she acting like this? We were best friends for years.
Plantchick
New member
Some people just say stuff like that and don't really know they are hurting people. She sounds like she may have been shy or something growing up so she just lacks fully developed social skill. Next time she says something bad tell her to not be rude but say it in a indifferent way so she does not get defensive.
ras_kiana_i
New member
Sounds to me like what she thought would make her happy (you being sisters) made her jealous and now she's happy to be mean. It's not your fault that she has a tough home life. She's the only one that can change that. Oh, and yes, she is taking advantage of you. I hope things change for you soon.
Plantchick
New member
Some people just say stuff like that and don't really know they are hurting people. She sounds like she may have been shy or something growing up so she just lacks fully developed social skill. Next time she says something bad tell her to not be rude but say it in a indifferent way so she does not get defensive.
ras_kiana_i
New member
Sounds to me like what she thought would make her happy (you being sisters) made her jealous and now she's happy to be mean. It's not your fault that she has a tough home life. She's the only one that can change that. Oh, and yes, she is taking advantage of you. I hope things change for you soon.