Why does my husband insist we swing when he knows I dont want to?

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georgie's girl

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he does it because he has no regard for your feelings. and he is selfish. my ex wanted the same thing. i kept saying no, no, no, no and he told me one day that some of his friends were going to come visit from CA so i was like that would be fun. well come to find out these are people he didn't even know and he met them on some kind of swingers site! i was livid!!! we are now divorced. he ended up cheating on me while i was pregnant. he saw sex as sex. i see it as something that bonds two people together and is special. i'm sorry you are going through this i don't know how to get him to stop. i had to divorce mine.
 
I tell him I am not interested, dont wanna do it, not gonna do it, yet he still seeks and trys to set up meetings with other couples for this to happen...once after viewing pics of a couple I told him I was not interested in the guy at all and he told them to meet us at this restaurant at a certain time, and i had no clue about it! No they didnt show up but I learned about it later by reading his email. I could go on but I wont, just looking to see if anyone has any ideas why he keeps doing this?
 
Just a thought, but he wants to have sex with another woman. And rather than cheating on you, he wants to do it on the level, with your approval and participation. He wants so badly to screw another chick that he's cool with another dude having sex with you.
I understand the appeal to swinging, it's a chance to acknowledge that everybody wants to have sex with someone else, but typically it causes insecurity and jealousy.
I would not even have the balls to proposition it to my wife, let alone keep pushing it like he is doing. I'd be worried if I were you. I think he is losing interest in you and might not particularly care if you were out of the picture.
 
He's a creep, he disrespects you and he wants laid by a different gal. If you didn't realize this before you really need a wake up call. He sounds like trash actually.
 
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