Why does my fiance hate to discuss wedding plans?

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I am so.. stressed!! Every time I try and talk to him about our wedding he somehow turns it around says that I need to stop nagging him. We don't even have a date set!! I don't know what to do I told him that I would be asking him 20 yrs from now and he just laughs at me!! He knows how much I want to get married and I think he does too. I just don't understand why he avoids the subject so often. I mean he went through so much just to ask me to marry him. He asked my grandfather for my grandmothers ring which was so... amazing!! I mean why would he go out of his way to be that romantic if he didn't want to do it. I am just to frustrated. I know he doesnt want a BIG wedding and either do I. I even told him we could elope!! I just need some kind of response besides what he is giving to me!! He is also so... Stubborn you can never tell him anything you have to let him think it was his Idea. Anyway, if anyone has any ideas on what to do or how to get through this it would be great!!
 
Women are more detail oriented than men. He probably just wants you to have the wedding you want to have (big or small) and wants you to make most of the decisions about the big day. Don't drive him crazy with every detail. It will be your day and it will be perfect even if everything doesn't happen just right.

Yes, a wedding takes planning but make those decisions and ask him on the important details. Guys don't care about colors, dresses, flowers, napkins, gifts for the wedding party, shoes, guest books, cake cutters, decorations, table settings . . . To most guys these things are just the little things that they don't even notice. They make a decision (to get married) and that's it. Men are more straightforward and not as capable at detail as most women.

Be careful not to push him over the edge by demanding he help you make every decision.
 
Women are more detail oriented than men. He probably just wants you to have the wedding you want to have (big or small) and wants you to make most of the decisions about the big day. Don't drive him crazy with every detail. It will be your day and it will be perfect even if everything doesn't happen just right.

Yes, a wedding takes planning but make those decisions and ask him on the important details. Guys don't care about colors, dresses, flowers, napkins, gifts for the wedding party, shoes, guest books, cake cutters, decorations, table settings . . . To most guys these things are just the little things that they don't even notice. They make a decision (to get married) and that's it. Men are more straightforward and not as capable at detail as most women.

Be careful not to push him over the edge by demanding he help you make every decision.
 
Men don't enjoy it as much as women. Even though my fiance and I are designers, he's not as interested as he expected he would be. I recommend you choosing options, and asking for his opinion (or letting him make the decision). Ex. find multiple photos of wedding venues, cakes, colours, etc, and ask his preference. You should do the same with a date, you figure out a logical time, maybe pick out 3 days (a week or more apart) and then ask him if that sounds like a good time. Don't nail it down to anything though, b/c you may run into problems with a venue being booked beforehand, so you have to sacrifice date vs. location, or something..
sorry hun, thats just how men are.
 
First, I would give him a break. He is a guy and he is probably still basking in the glory of the proposal. Go get some bride magazines and relax for a couple of week. Write down what is really important to you. After a couple of weeks or so, find out what he wants and if he does not want to contribute, ask him if it is okay if you make all the decisions about the wedding so he doesn't have to. He might not be interested in all the details.

As for my fiance, we talk about things, but he just wants me to be happy. I go about making decisions and planning things the way I want it, but I check in with him before major decisions are made.
 
Because the wedding is more about you than him. Men don't generally care that it's not the perfect shade of what ever color they just want you to be happy.
 
Because the wedding is more about you than him. Men don't generally care that it's not the perfect shade of what ever color they just want you to be happy.
 
Sit down and ask him why he doesn't want to plan the wedding. If he doesn't want to get married ask him why he proposed, and decide if you still want to be with him.
 
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