why does my daughter always whine and moan?

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my daughter has always been headstrong but listened to what i said. now for the last week or so she has been constantly whinging about everything! she has major tantrums over silly things that wouldnt normally botheer her. She isnt a horrible girl, she is kind, considerate, loving and a good sister and nothing has happened in this last week or so to make her change but shes just become some so difficult at the moment, what should i do? Shes 3 years old
can i just have constructive answers.
 
Hi, if she hasn't been like this before, then it could be her 'terrible 2's' stage, come late. Personally I think they should call it 'terrible toddler's' stage, coz it goes on for ages - especially when they don't get their own way.
Or she may be bored. Nothing against you as a parent, but if she would usually be at a nursery or playgroup, that's closed for holidays, then the excitement of staying home may have worn off. If she doesn't go to any playgroups etc, then maybe it's time. They need sooooo much stimulation as toddlers, and socialising with others their age.
As for the temper tantrums... ignore them and her! if she throws herself on the floor, just step past her and ignore her 'acting' until she realises she's not getting the attention she wants. (As long as she doesn't hurt herself in the process).
Winging and tantrums are normal.
Hope this helps a little.
GOOD LUCK!
 
Just tell her no whining and just talk to you. That's what my mom did to me. If she asks for what she wants by talking, I'd say reward her by giving it to her for not whining. If she asks by whining, say no she cannot have it because she's whining and has to ask you. Hope this helps :)
 
Just tell her no whining and just talk to you. That's what my mom did to me. If she asks for what she wants by talking, I'd say reward her by giving it to her for not whining. If she asks by whining, say no she cannot have it because she's whining and has to ask you. Hope this helps :)
 
They do this sometimes.My 4 year still has those days.My 2 year old odes too.Maybe they didnt have a good nap and are still cranky, or just tired from running around all day. Either way, i just give em a bath early, start their quiet time early, and put em to bed a 1/2 hour early.
Could also be that she is about to start a growing spurt.If it really bothers you consult her doctor, he/she would know what it is and how to deal with it.

I have also noticed that if you divert their attention they stop.Such as turn on their fav cartoon or start reading a book out loud.Even starting to play with a toy by yourself will get their attention then they join you and forget all about what they were whining about.Or you can ignore it and it stops eventually too.It all depends on your nerve level at the time :)
 
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