Why does my adopted daughter whine all the time?

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My husband and I adopted a little girl in January. She fits in perfect. Like she has been here all along. She will be 3 in Dec. and the last few weeks have turned into if you dont pay attention to my every move I am going to freak out, or you are not giving me what i want so ill just stand here and whine even if you dont give in. We have tried ignoring the tantrums and we dont give in but she seems to be so stubborn sometimes she will whine for what seems to be no reason at all.
 
Why do you call her your adopted daughter? Maybe because you're treating her differently she hates you.
 
Maybe she's a bit spoiled out of guilt? Do you feel guilt for her past life that you have no control over? I think it will pass you just have to be consistant and she'll learn that just because you can't give her your 100% attention all the time that you still love her.
 
She whines all the time because she's three. Kids that age do that. You are right to ignore the tantrums. If you give in to her when she whines then she'll learn that it works.
 
You will have to be diligent in rewarding her for positive behaviors and not giving in to negative ones. It's going to take time for her to adjust so try to be patient. Children learn behaviors so make sure she isn't exposed to other whiners, even adults.
 
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