bluebreezz
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Why does he keep this behaviour up?..possibilies?
i hope it is not too confusing:
I did not want this to be so long, but I thought I better explain the details:
(so if you read this already, the update is at the bottom)
i m 26 (female)
there is this older married guy (abt. 43), and his wife who was good friends with me. Thought of them as parents. they use to talk to me, laugh, ask me a favor or two. now suddenly he is not talking to me, only his wife is talking to me. I wonder what did I do to him. when he does say something to me or even greet me, it is either for me to help with something very important, or he just say a very short and sharp sarcastic comment then walk off, never to speak with me for a long time and so on it goes. now there is this new lady that is a bit older than than me. she seems nice. she and I became great friends. but then the guy and his wife started to make close friendship with this lady and the three of them is now buddy buddy. but I am is still friends with this lady. but whenever this lady has a problem, he is there to help her. he never did this for me. although he tired few time to assist me, I never take his help...then later came up and made sarcastic remark, put his hand on her head..then walk away
but, I don't get this guy's behavior. yes I know he ignores me for reasons I don't know. I am friends with him and his wife. and he is acting even more strange with all his sarcastic remarks. recently, we all attended a seminar. and during the break, he came up to me making witty remark about me taking enough notes for everyone. I know he is being clever because he always criticize people for taking a lot of notes when he thinks they are not paying attention to the speaker. so I was like "no..only took notes fo me", while he was walking aways with clever smile, then he doubled back, and said "what was that"...so I repeated my statement..then he walk away.
THIS IS NOT A SITUATION AT WORK...I NEVER GAVE ANY SIGNAL OF INTEREST IN HIM EITHER.
ITS NOT LIKE I AM HANGING AROUND HIM.
WE DONT TALK TO EACH OTHER...AT LEAST, I DONT TALK WITH HIM
FELT LIKE I LOST A FATHER : (
One night, he is trying to talk with me little bit again...but i m ignoring him.. it rained..and i left my umbrella at a meeting location..as i was getting into the vehicle to go home, i remembered i left it inside building...then when i was going for it, he was coming my direction and made statement : " its the fastest i've seen u walk"...i said: "i left something inside"...he said can i go and get it for you?" i said "no..i will get it myself"..then he walked off in shame
i felt proud that time..but now i m feeling little guilty
coz i thought he deserved to be hurt. Then a few nights ago, i was talking with someone…I saw him coming towards me from the corner of my eye. I just turned towards the person I was talking to and pretended I did not see him. Then I felt a slight rub of his fingers of my arm. When I turned to look, I saw that he was passing by..i said “oh hi”…he did not respond. Just kept on walking.
yesterday, a few of us had to go to a distant area to do social work. so we had to meet at his house for dispatch. Me and my freind drove in her SUV to his house to wait for others ot arrive. when we finally got to carpool, he drove my friend's SUV while this new lady friends at in front. so anyway, we were on our way and chatting and laughing. needless to say, he was quiet most of the time. then i was trying to remember the name of a book we all supposedly knew. i could not remember, so was discribing the color of it. then they lady ask him if he knew. he said the name if it to her in a very low voice, then she repeated it to me. then i was like "yeah, that's it!"..all the while i am thinking that he knew the answer, but because he is having this attitude towards me, he did not say it. he only was talking when she said somethings. throught they whole day, his attitude was bad. and he gave me bad looks through the day, as if he wishes i was not there. what's his problem?
i hope it is not too confusing:
I did not want this to be so long, but I thought I better explain the details:
(so if you read this already, the update is at the bottom)
i m 26 (female)
there is this older married guy (abt. 43), and his wife who was good friends with me. Thought of them as parents. they use to talk to me, laugh, ask me a favor or two. now suddenly he is not talking to me, only his wife is talking to me. I wonder what did I do to him. when he does say something to me or even greet me, it is either for me to help with something very important, or he just say a very short and sharp sarcastic comment then walk off, never to speak with me for a long time and so on it goes. now there is this new lady that is a bit older than than me. she seems nice. she and I became great friends. but then the guy and his wife started to make close friendship with this lady and the three of them is now buddy buddy. but I am is still friends with this lady. but whenever this lady has a problem, he is there to help her. he never did this for me. although he tired few time to assist me, I never take his help...then later came up and made sarcastic remark, put his hand on her head..then walk away
but, I don't get this guy's behavior. yes I know he ignores me for reasons I don't know. I am friends with him and his wife. and he is acting even more strange with all his sarcastic remarks. recently, we all attended a seminar. and during the break, he came up to me making witty remark about me taking enough notes for everyone. I know he is being clever because he always criticize people for taking a lot of notes when he thinks they are not paying attention to the speaker. so I was like "no..only took notes fo me", while he was walking aways with clever smile, then he doubled back, and said "what was that"...so I repeated my statement..then he walk away.
THIS IS NOT A SITUATION AT WORK...I NEVER GAVE ANY SIGNAL OF INTEREST IN HIM EITHER.
ITS NOT LIKE I AM HANGING AROUND HIM.
WE DONT TALK TO EACH OTHER...AT LEAST, I DONT TALK WITH HIM
FELT LIKE I LOST A FATHER : (
One night, he is trying to talk with me little bit again...but i m ignoring him.. it rained..and i left my umbrella at a meeting location..as i was getting into the vehicle to go home, i remembered i left it inside building...then when i was going for it, he was coming my direction and made statement : " its the fastest i've seen u walk"...i said: "i left something inside"...he said can i go and get it for you?" i said "no..i will get it myself"..then he walked off in shame
i felt proud that time..but now i m feeling little guilty
coz i thought he deserved to be hurt. Then a few nights ago, i was talking with someone…I saw him coming towards me from the corner of my eye. I just turned towards the person I was talking to and pretended I did not see him. Then I felt a slight rub of his fingers of my arm. When I turned to look, I saw that he was passing by..i said “oh hi”…he did not respond. Just kept on walking.
yesterday, a few of us had to go to a distant area to do social work. so we had to meet at his house for dispatch. Me and my freind drove in her SUV to his house to wait for others ot arrive. when we finally got to carpool, he drove my friend's SUV while this new lady friends at in front. so anyway, we were on our way and chatting and laughing. needless to say, he was quiet most of the time. then i was trying to remember the name of a book we all supposedly knew. i could not remember, so was discribing the color of it. then they lady ask him if he knew. he said the name if it to her in a very low voice, then she repeated it to me. then i was like "yeah, that's it!"..all the while i am thinking that he knew the answer, but because he is having this attitude towards me, he did not say it. he only was talking when she said somethings. throught they whole day, his attitude was bad. and he gave me bad looks through the day, as if he wishes i was not there. what's his problem?