hammer jay
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I am coming to terms with the break up of my relationship,what i would like to hear from people,is their opinion on the following.My ex gf finished with me after 6 months right - now we had our differences but nothing major.At the end she absolutely pulled me apart by picking every hole imaginable in me,to do with my lifestyle,my ex who is my sons mum etc etc.
Now i did'nt attack back in the same way because i just did'nt see the point and confrontation just gets you nowhere.I dont see that as a weakness,more being in control of my emotions.Now finishing with someone is one thing but tearing someone apart is something quite different.Either way, if you want out and you know the other person (myself) is in general a calm person by nature and is likely to accept the decision with dignity or just a little upset why make the finish far worse than it has to be ?.
Does this say more about the person's past,mental state or anything in particular ?.Because whilst i accept the relationship is over,i am finding it hard to comprehend the extreme change of character and if there is an obvious or simple (non sarcastic) answer to this behaviour i really would love to know for my own sanity.Thankyou very much in advance.
p.s my previous questions will give you a bigger insight & i do give back by answering other peoples questions. x
Now i did'nt attack back in the same way because i just did'nt see the point and confrontation just gets you nowhere.I dont see that as a weakness,more being in control of my emotions.Now finishing with someone is one thing but tearing someone apart is something quite different.Either way, if you want out and you know the other person (myself) is in general a calm person by nature and is likely to accept the decision with dignity or just a little upset why make the finish far worse than it has to be ?.
Does this say more about the person's past,mental state or anything in particular ?.Because whilst i accept the relationship is over,i am finding it hard to comprehend the extreme change of character and if there is an obvious or simple (non sarcastic) answer to this behaviour i really would love to know for my own sanity.Thankyou very much in advance.
p.s my previous questions will give you a bigger insight & i do give back by answering other peoples questions. x